“Can’t” is the word of note here. You are giving it power. If you believe that you can’t do something then you won’t. Start believing that you can and things will start to change. There are days when I have to work really hard to convince myself to keep going. Keep fighting. Because recovery is not an easy journey. But you have to learn how to change your thought process as @Oliverjava also mentioned. If you are talking down to yourself all the time then you will stay stuck in the same cycle. But once you start encouraging yourself and believing that you are capable of change - you will make it stick. I choose to tell myself that I WILL accomplish things. That way I hold myself accountable for my choices. Saying “I can” leaves me an out. But saying “I will” makes it seem like I have no choice but to continue on this journey. You are stronger than you know. Keep going. Keep trying. You CAN do this.
Here are some things that helped me in early recovery: