These are the ones that I’ve used in the past. No experience with SA or NoFap. I know others on here have used those a lot.
Hey man, I don’t judge anyone here, that’s up to my higher power.
I just want to first - get help for myself and second, encourage everyone who is down. But working with myself and my own problem to become free myself is my main concern, then I can better help/encourage others.
I am sorry for anyone who feels judged by my last message, that was not the intention.
I had my second SA meeting this week, just my cousin and I. It was so good to read through the SA white book (Thanks Mike!) I am going to make freedom from this addiction my number 1 focus in my life. That means anything that can keep me sober!
Tonight I will focus on not masturbating. I will do this by keeping my hands above the blankets and also not fantasizing about women / porn. I will pray for myself and also pray for you guys here. Please pray for me too. Last night I was sick and relapsed. I realise that when I am sick, that’s a good time to call a friend/sponsor and give them my laptop/phone. I have to pre-prepare myself for when the temptation hits and flee the temptation. I have never heard it said that we are to ‘fight’ lust in a way that a macho man would or the way we would fight a physical enemy. The only way I can beat this is to surrender it to God and flee areas where I am heavily (or lightly even) tempted!
So here’s to day one of sobriety! I hope to check in with you guys soon! Do whatever it takes today to stay sober.
I’m sure you are all tired of my many words and not much sobriety - let’s hear a bit of wisdom from you guys who have been sober for a few more days.
I’m out. Goodnight!
Iwillwin Thu 11:42pm. Africa
1 Like
Cgty04, you got this! You can beat this thing! I am one day sober today. I relapsed last night, but tonight is the night of victory! Keep up the sobriety and stay humble, together we can beat this thing. Praying for you man!
Thanks Mike, that SA white book has made a world of difference to me! My cuz and I met again and read through the first section. What stands out is to work the steps and keep working them, to make time for it! We made loads of time for acting out / doing porn / whatever. Now it will take commitment to get out of it as well. I am determined to know the 12 steps off by heart and to practice them. I am so amped to beat this thing!
I am on step 1 - I admit that I am powerless over lust.
I am willing to do all I can to break with this miserable lifestyle and become joyous and free!
Thanks for the good words Mike!
1 Like
Ahh wow! Way to go! Keep it up! Stay humble and you will make it to 60!! Let’s go!
Dude, you have come to the right place! Glad you are here! I’m 32. Not married, struggle every day with this stuff you mentioned. Determined to kick it! I’m just going to keep on this group and get all the help I can from other members while encouraging wherever I can.
I wish you the best of success!
I posted some videos here on this page, maybe you’ll find one that’s encouraging! Feel free to check out the chat and contribute wherever you can:
All the posts on Sober Talk regarding the topic can help.
People like you are winners! You can do this!
1 Like
Hey Anita, I can relate to that rejection - it seems like a common thread among us. Thank you for sharing.
Here’s a video you can check about another woman who faced rejection and got out of sex addictions:
Anita_Jean, you are not alone and there is hope for you!!
God loves you and accepts you!
1 Like
thank you so much for your motivation and boosting my confidence…
Having confidence in ourselves we can beat any addiction.
We will do it and show that we are stronger than the addiction.
1 Like
Dude! Well done! I am on day 1 of sobriety. Last night and today I kept myself from giving in. Prayer really helps and being focused. It’s my number 1 goal in my life to stay sexually sober! Keep up the sobriety man, you’re doing great!
1 Like
I have had a tough 24 hours
Two online porn sights.
One chat line. Spent 100 dollars
Feel
Terrible
Wish I believed in God
More.
Listen. Recovery is not easy. It’s a struggle and an uphill climb. You may not believe in God, but I do. I believe that God allows us to experience the worst pains the world can give us, so we can appreciate the goodness and wonder that the world has to offer. Without the bad, the good is meaningless.
What would be more sweet to you? Fruit and Vegetables you bought at a store, or the ones you worked hard to grow in a garden? We find joy in the struggle of life.
How could we understand eternal joy that God offers, if we don’t go through the opposing struggle to appreciate it?
1 Like
So, you want to believe in God. So do I. I don’t know what your obstacle is, but I’ll share mine. I grew up in the church. I’ve always considered myself Christian, still do. My problem is that church was always a source of judgement and shame for me. All it did was remind me of how broken I was. So, I’ve decided to believe in a God, some kind of higher power, if people ask I call it Jesus. I do believe it’s a God of love. As far as all the rules and technicalities go, I have no idea. I’ve decided not to worry about it for now. Problems for future Mike, as I like to say. I understand if that sounds blasphemous to some, but the God who would condemn me for that blasphemy would condemn me for a dozen or more other things I’ve done too, put it on my tab.
2 Likes
Where do u get a dumb phone
Hi everyone, i am a recovering porn, masturbation, and sex addict. I am only a few days back on track after a slip. But im greatful for the few days.
Its nice to know im not alone in this.
2 Likes
Hey Todd. You’re in the right place at least. What’s been your recovery plan? Do you have one?
I’ve found that going in to battle without a sword or shield is asking for a relapse.
2 Likes
Your very right. However i kinda jumped in. Dont have s total plan. Ive joined this site and another. Been trying to follow the 12 step . Im on 2.
Dont have alot of f2f opportunity around me on these addictions, so ive been trying to use online to seek support, advice, help…
Ive found some phone in meetings, and this forum.
Thanks for the acknowledgment!
1 Like
Absolutely. We are pretty active on this forum. Search the threads and learn from the hivemind. Write us your own thread of your story so we can help you out. We got to stick together!
Hi Guys, I hit 5 days sober from porn. Keep me in your prayers tonight. I wanna beat this thing one day at a time! I’m going for day 02 of no masturbation. Only God can help me, He knows how addicted I am and He knows how weak I am, but there is always a way of escape, but I have to be humble enough to find it and search for the way of escape in each temptation, whether it be shoving my laptop in the boot of the car, or pumping some weights, doing pushups or taking a cold shower. Or getting out of my warm duvet covers and getting on my knees on a cold floor, there is always a way! I have to want it! As long as I want something else, no victory! I can even pray “God, you see I want evil! Help me to want good!” Listen to this womans testimony of how she found the way of escape at the last minute:
Been tough lately. Each day I cancel a subscription to a lien site. After work I enlist again. I waste all night in it. Then cancel. Each day I repeat the process.