Hi Zeppocat, it might not work the same for you but I am autistic so I also have difficulties with social rules and eye contact. Something that helped me get some positive social interaction time every week was I started going to board game nights at a board games cafe near my home. Board games are popular all over so maybe there will be a board game club or cafe or at a community centre near you?
Anyway, for me this helped because 1) I don’t have to worry as much about social rules during a board game. I just have to play the game and I can talk about what’s happening in it if I want to, and everyone else is doing the same thing, it is expected. Sometimes there is a little bit of “how are you” “what game do you want to play today” before but that’s it. 2) Much much less eye contact is required because it is always OK to look at the game board or look at the cards.
For me, this has been great. As humans we are social creatures so our brain chemistry and so on is wired that we will feel better if we spend some positive time with a group regularly; but on the other hand as people with autism or anxiety or other difficulties these situations are not as simple as they are for other people.
Anyway hopefully it is not rude to suggest this in this thread, I just recognised that I’ve had experience with very similar struggles.
@Tweed1984 If you relapsed and are back to give it a go then you can start from a new card as the challenge is 100 days free of your addiction in the hopes that after the 100 days you keep in with your recovery and keep stacking up the days.
It is so exciting to reach 100. I am working on my 5 times challenge of 100 days. It just never gets old.. Yes I remember those first days and months not really believing in myself to accomplish what I have achieved. You are doing great and so glad you are here.