Hello everyone,
My name is Dominique and I’m an alcoholic. I’m 25 years old. I have finished two detox “tours”- one in a closed facility. I’m writing here today, because I need advice. As mentioned above I’m 131 days sober. I work and study. I play tennis. To be honest, first time in my life I work my ass off. I’m also trying to maintain a healthy relationship with my girlfriend (which sometimes is very hard, but that’s not the point). I have totally cut off the relationships with my friends, because after I stopped drinking they wouldn’t help me in any way. It’s like I died just because I wasn’t going to parties or pubs any more. Or maybe I just wasn’t a good friend and it was a good occasion to “let me go”. I don’t know. The point is: it has been over 4 months since I’m sober. I have changed all bad habits and I’m really trying to do something good with my life, but I can’t stop thinking about DRINKING. It’s killing me every day. Every single day I envy my friends that they have this amazing ability to go out and socialize and I CAN’T. It’s like I can’t find new friends just like that… I don’t even know where to look for people that don’t spend time drinking alcohol. I live in an enormous frustration that might literally kill me one day. It worries me. I don’t know If you understand me, but If you do you can tell me If you had similar situations.
Dominique
Hey Dom,
You just have to look at places that are different. Hiking clubs…conputer programming clubs…book clubs. Congrats on your success because that is truly what it is. I started reading fiction and it takes my mind into different realities and i have found it super helpful
Also google mindful meditation. That might help alot. Just keep it going.
The gym is a great place. Most offer classes so it’s more likely to make new acquaintances. Don’t be discouraged about not making really close friends right away. Those take time. Focus your energy on strengthing you and your girlfriends relationship especially if she supports you not drinking. 
I’ve been through it but recovery and sobriety is a start of a new life and new chapter. Time to meet friends who have similar sober interests and hobbies which you could meet at meetings. You find out who your real
Friends are when your not drinking and drugging with them…I have about 3 real friends now and I’m happy with that. Just keep doing your thing.
Hi, well done on your sobriety!! You are doing great! I’m 10 years older than you and I’d admire you! I was not brave or mature enough to do what u have done at that age. In hind sight I needed to quit at your age and break away from negative people and I wasn’t brave enough. I know it seems like ur missing out on parties etc but not drinking and partying allows u to open your eyes and see what else is around in this wonderful world. Look at taking up an outdoor sport/activity can really help being with nature. Focus on how well you have done and all the money u save from not blowing on booze or drug of choice spend it on something nice for urself 
I’d like to think you are missing having friends more than actually drinking. There is a lot more to life than parties, and I’ve been to clubs sober, I had fun but I also quickly realized I was kind of past that part of my life. Looking for something more fulfilling I found buddhism and meditation that has changed my life, with this there are temples and places I can go now where I can meet new people and do new things. Socializing is super important to maintaining sobriety but I would definitely look in other places you might be surprised. Good luck!
In that age I have also quite many friends, but there were only maybe 5 true friend who have been till now, its like an illusion of many friends in that age, but if a have stopped drinking in your age I would been quite rich by now and propably more knowledge and lived happier, alltoug I ungerstand how you feel. Wise thougts for somenone in you age Im 44.