Hi,
I’ll introduce myself first my name is Eli, i’m a 22 year old female student, and right now i am exactly 14 days and 6 hours clean of drugs.
I’ve been wanting to relapse more than anything these last few weeks, but couldn’t as my boyfriend is living with me and is keeping an eye on me.
So there’s two things i need some advice on.
Number one, what are the best ways to prevent relapses.
Number two, my boyfriend keeps telling me me going to NA and me getting clean is a big “situation” for him and he takes it as his responsibility. He was at a party last night on the phone with me and bc he huffed his nose loudly I jokingly said “oeh drugs?” Which ticked him off and he went on a rant about me losing all privileges to make jokes about that or anything related to it, because its too hard on him, while he knows i’ve struggled with alcohol abuse too he went and got extremely drunk and kept berating me for the situation. My Na meetings. My mental health, all the shit he’s done for me and my hospitalization in a clinic a few weeks ago. I know he was drunk and there was a-lot of emotion involved. But i cant bring it up to him without him saying all the things i’ve done and said to him. (Which was exactly only that he left me alone for 15+ hours to party while i was sick and he promised me he would be home on time.)
I just dont know how to handle this all.
He’s always been a good support to me and helped me wherever he could (hiding alcohol, throwing out benzos), staying with me through withdrawels, and trying to make the best out of the situation. but lately he’s been blaming me for everything, making me want to relapse into drugs and alcohol again…and it actually really made me think about self harm again…
I’m sorry if this is too long… but any advice would be appreciated
(And yes i’ve told him a million times this isnt his responsibility, but he doesn’t seem to understand that.
Love,
Eli