# 25 days down the drain
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757
**Category:** Relapses
**Tags:** alcohol
**Created:** [November 4, 2024, 1:53pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757 "2024-11-04T13:53:22Z")
**Posts on this page:** 8
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### Author:  [@Sally1](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sally1)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 1:53pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/1 "2024-11-04T13:53:22Z")
I went 25 days without drinking. Now I’m back to day one! Feeling pretty bad about myself. Any advice?
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### Author:  [@Misokatsu](https://talkingsober.com/u/Misokatsu)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 1:56pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/2 "2024-11-04T13:56:00Z")
Pick yourself up and get back on the sober/clean train. The only thing you can do. Well, you could look at what led up to the relapse and try to see if there were any triggers / patterns that you can be aware of in the future. Anyway, welcome back and keep fighting!
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### Author:  [@Sally1](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sally1)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 2:02pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/3 "2024-11-04T14:02:36Z")
Thanks. I thought I could just have one glass of wine. But it turned out like it always does. Way more than one glass. And hiding it from my family for 3 days.
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### Author:  [@Misokatsu](https://talkingsober.com/u/Misokatsu)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 2:06pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/4 "2024-11-04T14:06:40Z")
One is too many, a thousand not enough, as the AA saying goes. It really is true for me. But realising that the first drink is the most important actually makes it easier. Sober me can be more rational and controlled. One drink me will happily start to believe my own bullshit. So I never have that first drink. It took me years to figure that out though.
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### Author:  [@Faugxh](https://talkingsober.com/u/Faugxh)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 2:10pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/5 "2024-11-04T14:10:54Z")
> [@Relapsed again and i'm sad!](https://talkingsober.com/t/relapsed-again-and-im-sad/188745):
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> Hi everyone, I relapsed again on my 100-day challenge on Day 12. Today is my second day without alcohol and drugs. I wanted to share what happened. While I was working on a freelance project during my sober challenge, the employer disappeared without paying me. I was left with only $10 in my bank account, feeling deeply discouraged. The stress of being unemployed, having a car loan, and a court case that requires money for an attorney started to weigh heavily on me. I ended up asking my brothe…
Some good advice hear. You can also 🔍 _relapse_ at the top.
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### Author:  [@anon10035965](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon10035965)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 2:51pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/6 "2024-11-04T14:51:10Z")
> [@Sally1](#):
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> I thought I could just have one glass of wine. But it turned out like it always does.
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
Well not the t-shirt 😊
But…those 25 aren’t totally gone! It’s 3 steps forward en 2 backwards, means still going forward. Do not give up!
Glad you’re here. That prooves you are willing to change. Changes are needed and for most of us that includes a lot of big changes.
We even have to change the way we think.
I had to learn how to do that and did it trough trial and error. Being here and being active learned me a lot about my addiction. I tried to incorp all the tips in my daily life. The ones that worked I kept and the others got to go.
I made a sober plan with some that worked in it to give me structure. I will share it here so you understand what I mean:
> [@2 years sober and what helped me to get there](https://talkingsober.com/t/2-years-sober-and-what-helped-me-to-get-there/99392):
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> 2 days ago I celebrated my 2 years sober again. Again, because years ago I had a long stretch of sober days too but relapsed after 5 years. My doc is alcohol. I started to drink when I was 16 year or so and it increased in my student days. I noticed I had a problem around the aged of 30 I guess. Tried to quit multiple times but couldn’t get more then 30 days sober pensive Decided to give myself an ultimatum: 1 year. 1 year to get sober myself otherwise I would go to see my doctor and ask fo…
Maybe make your own sober plan?
It can be really helpful!
All the best! 🙋♀️
Claudia
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### Author:  [@Von100](https://talkingsober.com/u/Von100)
#### Post date: [November 4, 2024, 3:54pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/7 "2024-11-04T15:54:08Z")
You did 25days of alcohol free way to go!! That is a win! And you came right back. Brush yourself off and give yourself some grace this is a tough demon. You have it in you, can do it! You did 25 days, what was working for you on those days? Gather more tools in your toolbox. And go agian and today goal is to get your head on that pillow sober night. We are all here for you. You got this!
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### Author:  [@JazzyS](https://talkingsober.com/u/JazzyS)
#### Post date: [November 5, 2024, 1:10am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/25-days-down-the-drain/188757/9 "2024-11-05T01:10:13Z")
Welcome back Sally and great work on getting back in track with day 1. Relapses suck and that moderation thinking is a trap many of us have fallen prey to. Learn from the triggers/ thought pattern and push forward with strength and motivation. You can stack up the days again 💪🏽💪🏽. Keep connected 🤗