# 3rd relapse on it's way
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433
**Category:** Advice & Questions
**Created:** [June 5, 2020, 5:06am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433 "2020-06-05T05:06:00Z")
**Posts on this page:** 16
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### Author:  [@Bedardo](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bedardo)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 5:06am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/1 "2020-06-05T05:06:00Z")
Hi everyone! I’m a french canadian from Quebec City and i’m on “Sober Time” for almost a year. I’m trying to quit alcohol and weed for like 4-5 years now. It’s been a disaster for 3-4 years but since last year and a half I have been working with psychologists and my family, my friends and my girlfriend were helping me but since the beginning of the pandemic I’ve been drinking a lot and smoking too… I don’t know what to do… I really want to quit drugs but anxiety is sooo hard on me. Do you guys have any tricks?
Thanks and don’t give up either!! Peace!!
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### Author:  [@anon89207786](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon89207786)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 5:23am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/3 "2020-06-05T05:23:07Z")
Twelve steps
Think just for today, because that makes it way easier then thinking “I won’t use for the rest of my life”
Read a lot on this app, there are a lot of people here who want to help you.
Checking in daily to maintain focus in the checking in daily to maintain focus thread.
Find something to fill the time you can’t do anything: drawing, walking/running, mountain biking, Netflix(but be careful with how often), meditation/mindfulness.
Hope this helps, good luck
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### Author:  [@Bedardo](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bedardo)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 5:40am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/4 "2020-06-05T05:40:25Z")
Thanks! It’s true that to come here and read about people who lives the same things that you live is inspiring and really helpfull!! And yess I began some meetings but they were stopped by the pandemic…
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### Author:  [@Bedardo](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bedardo)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 5:44am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/5 "2020-06-05T05:44:30Z")
Thanks! You’re totally right using the “I won’t use for the rest of my life” line is so freaking me out…! I have to take it one day at a time and one hour at a time in some case, it will help my anxiety.
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### Author:  [@anon89207786](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon89207786)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 6:29am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/6 "2020-06-05T06:29:24Z")
What caused you to relapse in the pandemic?
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### Author:  [@Nicola2020](https://talkingsober.com/u/Nicola2020)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 6:33am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/7 "2020-06-05T06:33:12Z")
Have you thought about AA/NA or other programmes that use the 12 steps? They are still doing zoom meetings worldwide so worth a shot!
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### Author:  [@Bedardo](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bedardo)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 3:02pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/8 "2020-06-05T15:02:06Z")
Stress, anxiety, depression and also I was alone at home too often.
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### Author:  [@GVLNative](https://talkingsober.com/u/GVLNative)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 3:09pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/9 "2020-06-05T15:09:45Z")
You can start with these videos.
They are from SMART meetings that I attend.
They may resonate with you.
I would recommend trying meetings SMART, AA, NA, Recovery Dharma, etc.
Find which format seems to work best for you and attend regularly.
I like you can could not quit without Talking Sober and Meetings.
You have others like family and mental care as well. Use all of it to help you quit.
[ ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnjWZg1wexI)
[ ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzEQKEwlqvk)
[ ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gB_mjyXPmEs)
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### Author:  [@anon89207786](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon89207786)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 3:14pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/10 "2020-06-05T15:14:33Z")
Maybe you could truly avoiding being home alone often. Maybe you could get a pet to keep you companionship
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### Author:  [@Bedardo](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bedardo)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 5:35pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/11 "2020-06-05T17:35:11Z")
You’re right! I have some close friends that could help me! But it’s hard for me to be arround them because I really want to drink and just have fun when i’m with them…
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### Author:  [@anon89207786](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon89207786)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 7:07pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/12 "2020-06-05T19:07:48Z")
Then simply tell them not to bring booze if they come over
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### Author:  [@Pascal](https://talkingsober.com/u/Pascal)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 7:23pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/13 "2020-06-05T19:23:10Z")
I quit drinking and smoking at the same time. My profile info shows what I did to achive this. I struggled with this for many years and hope to have finaly found the solution. 27 days and counting. I am sure you can do it. If you need more info sent me a ping.
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### Author:  [@JRine8](https://talkingsober.com/u/JRine8)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 10:59pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/14 "2020-06-05T22:59:18Z")
Everyone has there thing my friend I’m personally on day 3 of my sobriety and at this moment I wanna smoke as well that’s why I’m on this amazing tool also I’ve struggled for awhile and at this point im pissed I really sat down and thought to myself that I’m bigger much bigger than this craving thinking back on my relapses I never had a thought that I was bigger but now I think much more of myself long story short love who you are and keep pounding it’s a fight and you will win
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### Author:  [@mleclaire](https://talkingsober.com/u/mleclaire)
#### Post date: [June 5, 2020, 11:01pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/15 "2020-06-05T23:01:27Z")
Acknowledge the craving & let it pass…deep breaths. The feeling won’t last forever, promise 😊
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### Author:  [@nirvana](https://talkingsober.com/u/nirvana)
#### Post date: [June 14, 2021, 6:57am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/17 "2021-06-14T06:57:44Z")
But what to do when those feeling keep on coming back, was sober for almost 3 weeks, but drank this weekend, i dont know how to help myself
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### Author:  [@mleclaire](https://talkingsober.com/u/mleclaire)
#### Post date: [June 14, 2021, 3:57pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/3rd-relapse-on-its-way/90433/18 "2021-06-14T15:57:00Z")
It’s a rough patch-we are used to patterns and habitual actions. You drank for a long period of time, it’s part of your habit reel. When you have those feelings, do something-pop on here, call a friend, go on a walk. Journal! Journaling was huge for me. With covid too there are aa meetings virtually that you can hop onto. You aren’t alone and you don’t have to be alone when those feelings come up