It’s been a while since I last posted here. I’m trying to stay away from social media but keep this one as a reminder for my own recovery.
I hit 6 months sober today, something I wasn’t sure if be able to do until I saw it happen. I get in a weird head space when I reach a sober birthday, this one in particular.
Since I first got sober I’ve had a lot of good and bad changes in my life. I went from living in a shitty car in San Francisco working shit jobs, drinking the pain of my divorce and loss of custody of my son away, to moving back to Oregon where I have a better shot of getting them back into my life. I also landed a job doing what I enjoy doing, being plumbing, making good money with great benefits.
I was living with a friend I’ve known for years, and his wife. It helped me a lot, but I came to see that their marriage is toxic and unhealthy and not good for me to be around. I also got into a relationship with someone I met online but am starting to feel like it’s a relationship based purely on the fact that she has a daughter who’s the age of my son when I last saw him, so I get my fatherhood fill in, as well as having my basic needs met sexually. Everything aside I don’t feel any connection with her. It’s only been a couple months but being the first sober relationship I’ve been in i can tell it’s not going to last very long.
I’m at a crossroads because the two places I have to stay until I save up enough for my own place are neither very healthy or enjoyable for me to be in. It’s not triggering me to want to drink or use but I have been feeling like not wanting to go on much longer.
With my child support taking nearly half my income I see it taking a while before I can get my own place. I feel like my higher power is testing me in a lot of ways. I can’t not think about my ex wife and son and getting us a house and being a family again, but I don’t hear from them and get the feeling that I don’t want to know what they’re up to. But I know things would be amazing and life would be good and worth living for if I had them back.
I’m still going to work the steps, on steps 6/7 and try to move forward in life a day at a time without using alcohol or drugs to enhance the pain. My mind is giving me enough of that, also being the 7 year anniversary of my folks passing is coming up next week. This’ll be the first time I’ve been sober for that and interested in seeing how it goes.
I think I just needed a place to write this out and that’s why I keep this app around. I’ve had so much luck and help from this community in the past and made some friends here who have helped a lot. It’s a pretty great place to keep myself reminded of my sobriety and reminder that I’m not alone.