I wrote this 3 days ago to someone else.
My wife of 36 years is still drinking. I turned 60 this year and I got my first 79 days ever. It was hard at first cuz wifey is still drinking. I got a lot of good advice here. I even hid this app from her. Then like an adult and suggestions from people on here I finally talked to her and told her how important it was for me. It was a great conversation. I told her about the app and my support group here. But she also let me know she’s still gonna drink. I got 2 grown up kids in recovery. I’ve learned the only sobriety I can control is my own. It’s getting so much easier, with the wife still drinking, now that I got a couple of months sober. I think for both of us. Hang in there it does get easier. With the spouse anyway. Sometimes I catch myself eyeballing her martinis and wish I could have one. But I know one leads to 6 or 10 of them. And I don’t miss the hangovers. I use to get them bad and often.
However the last few days with this CV and the shit show going on in our government wifey has been upping the cosmo count each afternoon and passing out on the couch after dinner. I feel sad and lonely. But it doesn’t make me want to drink. Only I can make myself want to drink. And right now with all this shit going on would be a great excuse to drink. And I’d usually drink a lot. But it wouldn’t change a darn thing. It wouldn’t make anything better. Hang in there. Your worth it. It does get easier.