I just want to start this thread to list what you miss about your addiction! Really not trying to blast ANYONE but my mind just really got to thinking we need to put a list together of what we miss.
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I’ve tried to write a response here 5 times and I’ve erased everyone of them because I am either being a jackass or I am trying to lie to myself with the facts.
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My response would be an ice cold beer, but as I think one turns to too many and I don’t miss that at all. So I guess I don’t miss THAT ice cold beer after all.
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I so agree with that compassion and understanding. If you all can’t tell I’m usually pretty quick to "decide " on things and during my active days. Let’s just be honest and say I would right you off if I didn’t understand your actions or behavior. Now I try to have patience with ALL people because I know how we can be lost. I was so far gone for years and I don’t want anyone trapped there like I was.
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I dont miss anything the benifits not drinking outway my drinking days and ive been a lot longer sober than i was drinking everyone have agood day
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I am asking what you do truly miss. I was never the one to taste my alcohol so I can’t speak to that. But yeah that buzz does still have appeal but in my addiction out of a 24 hour period I was merely buzzed for less than an hour the rest of it I was maintaining the art of being drunk. So I just barely felt buzz. I’m really curious if there will be one thing I hear and think yes I miss that too. I’m not trading recovery for pain I just am???
Since I’m now on addiction recovery #2, I’ll mention one from each. (5 years clean from alcohol, 25 days from porn).
I miss the taste of a really good beer. I was a serious beer snob when I was drinking, and none of the NA beers come close. Clausthaler is okay, but it’s not close enough to get me where I want to be from a taste perspective.
On the porn tip, I honestly can’t think of anything that I miss right now. I really enjoy being able to look my SO and my daughter in the eyes knowing that I’m not contributing to their objectification. I’m enjoying my newfound respect for myself. I’m enjoying not having to hide my internet browser history, or use incognito mode.
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Like you Chad, I want to say the “freeness” I felt from it ,to do anything,anywhere,anytime. Then I remembered some of the things,places,and times and like you I guess that’s a scratch. Thought I would toss it out there just because.
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only thing i miss is being able to just walk up to someone and start talking to them without being anxious or worried about how i appear to them. Other than that, fuck alcohol.
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Well said. Agree 100%.
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This a great post, and is a good question for someone in recovery to ask themselves. It gets me thinking if I am really missing out on anything by being sober or why I want to drink. I am in AA, but I also attend SMART Recovery monthly. One of the first exercises SMART has you do is a Cost Benefit Analysis worksheet. You fill out the worksheet by writing the “Benefits and Rewards” of Drinking/Using on one side of the sheet, then you write the “Costs and Risks” on the other. After which you repeat the same process for Not Drinking/Using. At the end you decide if each entry is long-term or short-term. On my worksheet all of my benefits of alcohol are short-term, because they are obtained from the effects I get from increased dopamine on my brain (relief of stress, increased confidence, relaxation,etc.) I have yet to come up with one long term benefit of drinking.
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