Advice for living with another drinker

This is day 2 of my sobriety. Over the weekend, my significant other and I discussed “cutting back” this week, having a sober week. The thing is, I don’t want to do that. I want to quit for good. I’m an alcoholic. He’s an alcoholic. But we’re in different places in our journey. I will not link my sobriety with his, I know that would never work. However, I love him. We’re engaged, getting married soon. I just wonder if it’s possible for me to be/live with another alcoholic. Can I remain sober while he drinks? The last time I tried to sober up, it lasted 3 wonderful weeks, but I felt very distant from him because we didn’t spend much time together. In those 3 weeks I didn’t do much except not drink. I didn’t become more active or try to get out and do things, which I do think he’d enjoy. He’s a very social person whereas I tend to be more introverted. Perhaps, I just need to try to find things we can do together that don’t involve drinking?

He’s very supportive of me and my endeavors. I know he’ll support me, I just wonder how hard it’ll be for me having alcohol around (though, not my drink of choice).

Any advice or success stories out there? At this point, splitting up is not an option for me.

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I share your flings and know it’s possible but not very easy. My wife of over 20 years is the main reason I want to stop drinking. That being said I never drink except when we’re together in a bar or restaurant, and then I never know how to stop. Tonight I’m going to be my first attempt at an AA meeting to try to find a sober circle of friends & support. Try hiking you’ll definitely need other positive activities in your journey.
Be Strong!

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My boyfriend also drinks tho not an alcohic and he’s a major stoner. He quit hard drugs for me (again he wasn’t an addict just recreational) and he’s 30 days clean from that but I am nervous about having any alcohol around. Were moving into a new apt together Friday and I told him several times just don’t bring alcohol into this house. I cannot avoid the temptation this early in sobriety. However I don’t care if we go out to dinner and he gets a drink or buys a bottle and puts it in his safe. Well see how it goes!

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