Hi, I am 59 days sober and feeling so good about my sobriety EXCEPT my hubby is on his own emotional roller coaster which I feel is being powered mainly by al-anon!! I know he needs to work through his feelings but every time he is on there he gets really down and is moody with me and I can’t help thinking the advice he is getting is negative towards me and doing more harm than good!! Does anyone have experience of al-anon to advise me please?
see that is what truly bothers me, that they will talk him into leaving me!! I have snooped once on his posts but promised not to again and I can’t break my word!
I attended as a teen because my dad is an alcoholic and my town was too small for an al anon and an alateen. I remember a lot of talk about setting boundaries, not accepting guilt or blame for the addict and things like that.
I remember being struck by how much all of the women in the group had just steeled themselves to hang on to their relationships. It was more affirming each other than bashing the addict.
For what it’s worth…this was 20 years ago and through a teenager’s perspective!
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Thanks both of you, I know that he needs an outlet for his emotions and someone to talk to about his feelings, I suppose I am just afraid really, he said his head is all over the place and wonders why mine isn’t, I said that I feel mine is clearer now I have my sobriety as a focus, I think his emotions are just emerging now and that’s good - I just worry that he gets the wrong advice when he is so mixed up!
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