Well done on staying strong! Very very proud of you. 
every time you donāt listen to your addict voice it gets a little quieter. Congrats on the new job!!! Awesome!! 
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You probably avoided Covid 
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You arenāt missing anything. I went out with some people to a bar one night about 6 months into my sobriety. I quickly realized how miserable being at a bar really is and how much I wasnāt missing. The best thing I can tell you is to find something that will occupy your time. Find something that you really truly want to do or like doing and start doing it. Youāll realize very fast that you arenāt missing anything with your friends.
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And to be really honest, if theyāre your true friends, they wouldnāt want you there in the first place. Theyāll want you to remain sober and theyāll support and help you to maintain sobriety. If they donāt, then they arenāt your true friends.
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You may not know this, but this can be an exciting time for you, if you choose it to be.
Your friends are out partying, which I assume is their preferred social activity. Take a good hard look at them. Are they exciting, educated, dynamic people? Are they doing things that change peopleās lives for the better? What kind of legacy are they building?
You can choose to be better. Not ābetter than themā. You can be better today than you were yesterday, and tomorrow better still. You can get better physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, mentally, financially. You can set bold and audacious goals for yourself, and go āall-inā to achieve them. When you become this person, you generate a certain gravity that draws dynamic people to you.
And one day you pause, happily realizing you are where you are, because you chose a different path than your old crowd. They chose the easy path. They went to work, got together on weekends and happy hours. Maybe a few built pretty decent lives, but will always wonder what ācould have beenā, had they chosen a different path. What would they have in the bank? Where would they be professionally? Would they have run that marathon, or built that business, or written that book, that instead remained an unrealized dream? Where would they be, had they not had that drunken incident that ruined a potentially great relationship? Where would they be had they not gotten that DUI?
You can choose the hard path. I chose it early in life, and it was a great trip. Unfortunately, I chose to get off the hard path for a time, and it took many years and great effort to find my way back to it. But I am back on it, and it is a better path.
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Hey @Bertoozi nice to meet you I hope you stayed in because I went out last night and Iāma tell you something itās not worth it it was not worth it at all because I woke up feeling like shit this morning with a bad hangover itās not worth it stay strong strong when I say this Iām also speaking for myself whenever you get the urges do a prayer or quickly meditate on the good and bad that comes from going out
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Aww im sorry to hear that! Proud to say i didnt give in and stayed sober. No hangover for me and im feeling really good. Thanks everyone for the encouraging words i really do appreciate you guys! Today is going to be a good day 
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Awesome sauce 
thatās what Iām talking about
Something that happened to me when I quit drinking, I started noticing a lot of friends I have were friends because we would go drink and party once I stopped I realized who my true friends were and most of us fell apart and thatās okay, cause I know it was just part of life. Some friendships last some donāt. Anyways I would just find a new hobby that you can spend that positive energy on and get involved with yourself.
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Thank you for the supportive words 
i am in the process of trying to find a new hobby and healthy things to do with my time. Im still working on it and havent found much to do but i have high hopes. The town im in is very small so thereās not much to do thats why we all drink so much. 
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Itās the same where I live, its actually bad out in Saskatchewan, most of the people in the small towns think doing drugs and drinking is normal its sad. Try something youāve always wanted to do, learn a new instrument, start writing and journaling, maybe dive into meditation and find peace of mind 
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Hey weāre neighbours haha 
thanks for the advice i will def try some of those ideas out! Thats how the people here are too. Everyone just thinks drinking and drugs is a normal part of life and its sad honestly.
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