# Are you affected by a loved one who’s an addict? **URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/are-you-affected-by-a-loved-one-who-s-an-addict/128059 **Category:** Emotional Support **Tags:** love, relationships **Created:** [October 12, 2021, 3:12pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/are-you-affected-by-a-loved-one-who-s-an-addict/128059 "2021-10-12T15:12:41Z") **Posts on this page:** 1 **Showing post:** 1506
### Author: ![Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/dazercat/32/470527_2.png) [@Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dazercat) #### Post date: [February 24, 2024, 6:26pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/are-you-affected-by-a-loved-one-who-s-an-addict/128059/1506 "2024-02-24T18:26:21Z")
I’m always trying to figure out what robs me of my serenity. And I’ve been stuck on being judgmental. Whenever I’m loosing my serenity I try to think if I’m judging someone and usually I am and **it is** robbing me of my serenity. But I discovered another one that is HUGE for me. Taking things personally, really robs me of my serenity. It’s been a rough week with all in my world. And just a little while ago I’m chatting about the new house with wifey and I want to install some shelves here in the family room. She doesn’t think shelves would look good. And she thinks we should wait until we see the house again together and check it out. Next thing you know I’m like ok. Well let’s just throw all our books away that we’ve been carting around for ten years if you don’t want any shelves in the house!!! Why? Why? Why? Did that come out of my head and mouth. Why do I take everything she says so personally. She’s not drinking this morning. We were just having a nice conversation dreaming about our new home together. That I started!! I don’t know. But I think I’m learning a lot about myself. And how much of me is the problem. I got to fix me. So I got in Insight Timer for my walk and searched “taking things personally,” and found this. It was Gold. > [@Meditation for Serenity 2021-2025! (tips, tricks & discussion/ 4 years running woot!)](https://talkingsober.com/t/meditation-for-serenity-2021-2024-tips-tricks-discussion-3-years-running-woot/135130/1534): > > This one was HUGE for me. More of a talk with a short meditation at the end. I cried through most of it because I take things so personally. Especially with my loved ones. Especially with my wife. This really hit a nerve crypraypraypray 🙏❤ --- _[View the full topic](https://talkingsober.com/t/are-you-affected-by-a-loved-one-who-s-an-addict/128059)._