Back to a solid week. How is everbody?

It may only be wednesday but its a solid sober week for me and im feeling much better than this time last week.
How is everybody coping and how are we all thinking of staying sober this coming weeken?

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Day 11, feeling depressed but fortunately no cravings. Going to be sober next weekend also

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Congrats on your week!!

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I make little plans like today i have been for a swim, i am going to a face to face meeting tonight at 7:30pm, and then il come home and look forward to my dinner after, then relax in bed, for me today this enough, its enough to keep me occupied, busy and to slowly start socialising into the world again without my sobriety being impacted.

For the weekend, i will have meals planned to cook, and go for a swim and a fitness class, some course work and an AA meeting.

When my kids where younger everything revolved around them, so it’s hard trying to fill a day thats all about me, and only has me in it.
For me it was so much easier with the kids, i had a routine, things had to be done on time, wanting to take them out and do stuff indoors with them. Im so lost as a single person. Im learning to live again slowly without being a drunken mess.

I actually enjoy the small things i look forward too, although i have days of feeling like a lonely failure or feeling depressed or like i badly want a drink i have to keep going with the plan,
its a small plan where I slowly get to add things or take them away depending on if they are doing good or bad for me. I know there are plenty of groups to turn to for support, there is so much more i could be doing and thats the plan to use evey resource i need to help me stay sober and try to live a good life, whilst i learn who i am.

Congratulations on your week :two_hearts:

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I also get really depressed around the 2nd week and then i give in.
These past few weeks on here has really helped me and i find myself reading and writing and before i know it, its bed time again.
I plan to have a weekend based on the kids activities and not sitting at home with them. Soft play has been mentioned so will be pretty tired too.
Write away and talk if you feel it would help

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Thank you. Feeling quite good too . Hope your well

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I’m just feeling such a loser, I’m 35 yrs old living with my parents, no girlfriend. Friends of my age usually have their own families. Well I don’t dream about having children but a relationship, own appartment and a steady job would make me happy. Moods depend on days, this day feels brighter even though nothing has changed. Luckily I still haven’t got cravings to drink. Nice to hear you are coping better :slight_smile:

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These things will come to you. Dont let these things define who you are :hugs: or make you feel any less either.
I find the longer i stay sober, things start slowly coming together.
Stick with it.
Lifes also making it almost impossible for many to have their own home your not alone there just dont let it make your feel your not worth anything, society can make us feel we are suppose to have certain things but its all rubbish, things come to us when we are ready for them i believe.

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Get in! I’m sorry pleased for you!

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Hi how are you doing today ?
How are you feeling about the weekend?
Did you come up with any ideas or plans through the week to help you over the weekend?
Im here if you feel its a struggle :hugs:

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Thanks for support :slight_smile:

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Day 7 was yesterday, Thursday.

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Im doing ok so far. We are changing the kids bedrooms around so plenty to do this weekend. I had my swedish national exam yesterday so i can now relax a little too. No more studying for now.

Been back on the diet and rowing machine too. Can feel myself slowly drifting away from the need of alcohol but its still very invasive im my head.

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Hey dont feel like a loser. Pm me if you need to chat.

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This is brilliant to hear that your exercising and can feel the alcohol becoming distant.
Decorating i used to love it until i started it :laughing: i always imagined it to not be as big a job as i had imagined.
I see a milestone in recovery here thats has been similar to me, when i get sober i redecorate after a while its like something in me knew i needed to change mt surroundings to help me recover and feel at peace in my own space. Also to do the jobs that were nagging inside my head that actually lead to me to have cravings and want to drink.
I miss having my kids young and the routine and stuff, but then i also forget how hard it was to get sober with kids if that makes sense. Your doing so well im proud of you :purple_heart::hugs:

Also congratulations on doing your exam :slightly_smiling_face:

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Today’s Day 10. Woke up this morning with puppy kisses, 1.5 mile walk, Chili Cheese Omelet, cup of coffee. Now heading to checkout a new sporting goods store, the football ALL DAY. GO GREEN!

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Thank you. Not sure on how well i done but i done it. With a clear head. This is now the second longest run for me since pregnancy and whilst breast feeding.
Yes the kids do make me want to drink sometimes but they are also the main reason i must not .
I also like to decorate but as you say the job always becomes bigger than it should.
Right now… its dance class with the tots in tje lounge. A last attempt at making them tired :slight_smile:

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I’ve had a pretty good week, in that last night I held our quarterly belt-promotion test, and my students did fantastic. They’ve chosen the path, and worked diligently to achieve that next bit of recognition of their journey, and watching them getting better and better is quite fulfilling.

The best part is I have a few women in my class who have been facing life challenges ranging from divorce or abusive partners. The manager at my school, a strong woman with years of martial arts teaching experience, who is also a nationally recognized sex abuse investigator told me that these women (who she encouraged to join my class, have some really complimentary things to say about the quality of the training, my style of teaching, and the growing sense of empowerment They’ve found. I am humbled. Plus, Ive been filling in for a kids instructor for three weeks, my first time teaching anyone other than older teens and adults. One of the ladies above has two little girls who also take classes. The mother/my student told me her daughters said “We really like Mr. Steve’s class. He looks mean and grumpy, but he’s really fun and nice.”

About the clearest sign I am following the right path, which all began with my decision to never drink again.

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