Anyone else struggle with this one?
I catch myself sometimes and I tell myself “chill out… Sheesh”
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This will fix that!
I often remind myself of this scene - the finest demotivational speech ever. What does matter is that I am sober today, I have a chance to fix any ruptures I may have caused yesterday, and I can dream of a free and serene tomorrow.
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You’re right I’m going to be more focused on what’s really important especially on living and enjoying now
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Yes!!! I am known to be a serious person. Quite frankly, i spent most of my life in addiction, and we all know how serious that lifestyle can be. Theres a lot of violence, depression, anger, and pain (at least it was in my environment). Its hard for me to just “relax” and “take it easy”. I try to lighten up in sobriety but its a work in progress lol I realize now that Im not living in old ways, so therefore I dont need to respond in such a serious way. Living life sober, happy, joyous, and free is what its about!
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After a few years I have come to understand this constant; Sobriety has been about change. Ask me again tomorrow and I may see it differently. Life didn’t change, but I did. Most days, I get to change. On fewer, quieter days, I must change. During those moments, I sure don’t enjoy hugging that cactus, but afterwards I end up learning some life lesson(s). Either way the road takes me, I buckle up. Thankfully so far, love, service, and sobriety almost always slaps me into the sunlight of the spirit.
The program I work? It’s instinctual without much effort for me to escape a life I don’t enjoy, what’s difficult and challenging is building a life I love today. And I’ve come to realize, I don’t ask or pray for a better life, I ask and pray for the strength to endure a difficult one. Re-alignment for me, is often times required and? every morning. ODAAT
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My default safety mechanism is humour, if the shit hits the fan I can’t help but see the funny side. That being said I do get serious when people aren’t behaving the way I think they should so I have learnt (still learning) to lower my expectations for the day, there’s not a lot I can be serious about if I stop trying to control everything and everyone let life be life and enjoy the moment
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I want to say thank you for everyone replying to my question for some reason my phone hasn’t been notifying me about your replies or else I would have written back sooner.
@Butterflymoonwoman i agree I will remember it isn’t about survival or barely making it anymore. I am safe and secure. That old life wasn’t like that but I can change my response and my mindset and higher power can definitely handle it too
@z_james_kick i like what you said about building the life you love and about how you are able to change
@Dolse71 i think I enjoyed your reply the most thank you for sharing that with me.
Hope you all are good today happy Sunday
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I like what you did, you found the favorable items in each comment instead of picking out the ones that alienated you. and? you invited us back into the conversation. keep it up, i want to be like that too!
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Hi Jacob,
This mental structure (being too serious) is a normal stage in your journey to sobriety. Being aware of it and asking yourself whether to maintain this mindset or take the risk of loosening your grip on reality is healthy and relevant.
What do you think?
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Thanks for your feedback 
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I tend to be a very pedantic person. So, I understand this. It’s easier when I know social etiquette and rules though. If it’s a laid back environment, I’ll be more laid back; however, if it’s an unknown or new environment, I default into reading the room and people’s behaviors and try to mirror that. It’s unnerving if I don’t know the rules though or if they’re constantly changing. 
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Thanks for your feedback that is a good word to describe what I’m talking about.
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