Just got back to my office after being off for 7 days. I forgot that I had made a bet with a co-worker on a football game for a bottle of Jameson. Today he walked by and said he’d get me the bottle later. I’m worried if I tell him I’m working on becoming sober and that I’d rather have the cash that would throw out red flags and if I take the bottle I know I’ll drink it over the weekend. Any advice?
There is no shame in telling him that you can’t have it, for whatever reason you give him.
Sober people live in the shadows of alcohol and drugs and there is no reason we shouldn’t be proud of bettering our lives and health.
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New Year’s resolution. Giving up the booze
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These answers are all right, but if you’re that worried about perception, take it and regift it to someone else outside of your work as a New Year’s gift. Leave it at work so you’re not tempted to drink it.
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I would regift it, but if that’s too tempting, I like @Mester suggestion. New years resolution, that’s totally acceptable.
The only thing is he might say hold onto it until u start drinking again…of course for the alcoholic, we don’t hold/save anything. I’d be through it in a couple days.
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Maybe tell him he can treat you to a take-out lunch instead! That way he gets to treat you to your win, to-go lunch so you wont be tempted to order a drink, and enjoy it in a break room with him?
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Part of me wants to pour it out. To prove to myself I can. It’s going to be a rough couple of weeks with New Year’s, my Birthday and the ice fishing trip. But I feel like if I can power through this. I can make it! I went for a good 2 mile run on the treadmill after my workout today. Feeling good and strong. I appreciate everyone’s support!
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I’ve got a wrapped bottle of something alcoholic on my fireplace. The person I recieved it from (for Xmas) gave up months ago and knows I gave up over a month ago. He said he got it before I stopped.
I’m just laughing it off, no sense in getting angry and then drinking it for some perverse reason!
If I get tempted I’ll pour it straight in the sink or give it to someone else.
If I’m not tempted, he’s getting it back, still wrapped, in a year’s time.
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Ask him to donate the money instead to a charity?
You so should do that next year. Even though it was bought for you before you quit, coming from somebody who quit themselves, I think it would have been a nicer guesture if they didn’t have enough money to buy another gift to have given you a Christmas card with “I had bought you a bottle but instead you get a huge congratulations from me instead, well done for quitting”…
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You’re right, but I don’t think he realised my ‘problem’ was way more out of control than his.
Strange, isn’t it - less than 6 weeks ago that bottle and anything else I had in the house would be gone, I’d be restocked and I’d now be well on my way to oblivion.
And now it seems like I was mad.