Woo Hoo 
Congratulations on your 10 days Blanka
Great Job 
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Thats so funny 
lol thanks
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Ten days is a big deal.
I’m glad you found us.
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That’s awesome! I had no cravings yesterday as well. Super happy to wake up sober, and sleep is getting better too. But I know the cravings will hit when I least expect it so need to stay prepared 
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Yes I know. Addicted brain tactic lol ‘They are fighting back!!! They won the battle but the war is not over! Lets trick them to believe that they are safe so they loose their guards…’ but we lived and we learned right? 
So my friend… your name is in, this thread is officially yours to check-in every day… no way back this time!!! Have a lovely sober day and keep us posted xxx
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Epic! Will try to check in regularly, even though I tend to not be online every day all the time, I tend to fluctuate so can’t promise daily precense forever Feeling the pressure haha 
Absolutely! 
Whatever works best for you 
and a bit of pressure is good LOL you are being watched now 
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Indeed! 
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Alright! Check-in early evening on day 13. Grateful I only had a short stab of cravings earlier but it was gone almost before I registered it and the rest of the day it was fine. Have doing a lot of reading on my certification for work, and I’m now catching up on the Formula 1, Formula 2 and Formula 1 Academy sessions I missed earlier due to reading and exam anxiety.
Enjoyed a glass of alcohol free ginger ale before dinner and now I’m having a soft drink. Don’t even miss alcohol. Very grateful for that, and for this community and especially this thread
Slept amazing tonight too, so that’s starting to fall in place now as well. Two weeks tomorrow, not stopping there!
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‘especially this thread’ LOL, thank you!!! That’s because this thread is the best!
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I’m 2 days behind you (please never ever let me get ahead of you 
) 12 days tomorrow. Today working all day and as expected (after dealing with too much nonsense at work) on my way from work I had to speed up to safely pass by the local supermaket. Cravings easy to manage and I made it and I am back home now and I feel so very good!
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Good job! You’re nailing this!
I need your advice guys, mabe just reassurance… its personal but also alcohol related so I think you might be the best people to ask. In exactly 1 week my ex boyfriend is having his birthday, big one. Our relationship broke around 3 months ago, for me it is still fresh, Im slowly coming to terms with being without him. Our 1 year relationship even though lovely was very intense, full of ups and downs, also full of alcohol… Alcohol was always there mainly because of me, he loved seeing me relaxed so bottle of champagne was always waiting for me in his fridge. I was quite honest with him about my drinking problem but he was always reassuring me saying that I judge myself to harshly and that I can drink in moderation ( which I usually failed). So… to the point… I don’t know if I should contact him (text/call/email) on his big day… I feel like I should… like I want to… but what if he answers, what if he will want us to meet up… I know myself and I know that could be too much to handle without alcohol… very high risk of relapsing. I feel safe and calm where I am now and when I miss him I am not even sure if I really miss him or maybe just my old lifestyle.
I know you cant tell me what to do but I do appreciate your opinions xxx
I think you have answered your own question. Knowing that a reconnect would lead to a relapse is not a healthy relationship to gravitate towards. I know it hurts and you do miss the relationship/ maybe the lifestyle or both but this will heal.
In my opinion it is best to make a clean break. Any time I tried to stay connected with my ex (even if it was just texting and nothing else)- we always ended up back together. I had to block him and not go back.
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And give this topic a read also, it could help straighten out your thinking. Remember, our thinking, our logic, is twisted by years of drinking, and like they say in AA - “I shouldn’t go into my head alone, it’s a bad neighborhood.”
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I agree with the other guys here, it might be best if you don’t reconnect. From what you told it seems like it wasn’t the healthiest relationship, and if it means very high risk for relapse I’d suggest try to let it be in the past, heal your heart while healing your body and mind in your sobriety journey. Look to the future, not the the past. We tend to glorify past relationships that have been challenging by downplaying the negatives and the reason it ended afterwards.
If you end up contacting him, I’d at least be upfront with him and say you’re sober and working to stay sober and don’t want to be tempted to drink so he’s aware on where you’re at.
I know it hurts and you still have some feelings but if the relationship was right it probably wouldn’t have ended.
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts. You have my support whatever you do.
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@JazzyS @SinceIAwoke thank you, I know I am still so fragile, like I cant handle feelings without alcohol, lets be honest few days ago I had bad cravings after just visiting hairdressers lol i laugh but it is sad, I feel like I need to avoid life to stay sober, I cant wait to be stronger than that… I guess I need to make recovery my priority, someone here quoted their therapist ‘whatever you put before sobriety, you will lose’…
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