So my whole life has been one long crazy alcohol fuelled party. Too many bad things have happened recently that has made me think this time I need to stop drinking for my health my mental health and for everyone around me. The problem is I do like drinking but its all the bad stuff that goes with it I don’t like. Im scared that I’ll miss it because its been such a huge part of my life. Am I just in denial that I can cut down and control it?
Hello,
I’ve moved this to the “Advice & Questions” category. I think it fits in better here.
You still seem a bit on the fence. I’ve read a few of your other posts and it looks to me like drinking has had quite a negative effect on your life and relationships.
What part of the drinking do you actually like and what do you think you’ll miss when you stop it completely?
well I enjoy relaxing and having a laugh and most of the people I know drink a lot especially my aunt who I’m close to but it gets out of hand sometimes more often than not recently. I know if I’m around these people it is a trigger. Last year I stopped drinking for around six months and I felt amazing my mind was clear but alcohol is my evil little friend when I’m bored and lonely too as I can drink on my own and I feel like life gets boring when I am sober. I need some new hobbies I know that is a step to sobriety
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“i can think of a million excuses to quit drinking but only one good reason to stop”
meaning…anytime you find yourself “missing” alcohol thats your mind making excuses to keep drinking.
As alcoholics we are trained in the art of manipulation!
We even manipulate ourselves into believing we miss it as we actually had good times while we were drinking when in all reality the only thing we were doing was becoming someone else in a situation we didnt feel like dealing with or around people we werent comfortable being around.
When we wake up the next day very few times can we look at the people, places, or things we were doing without some sort of regret for things we said or did.
But to answer your question…HELL YES you can be sober for the rest of your life!!
Will it be easy?
Not all the time…but then again being a drunk wasnt all that easy or else you wouldnt feel the need to quit?
I can promise you this tho…at least the struggle with being sober pays off a lot more in time then what being an alcoholic will steal from you!
Stay strong…Stay sober!
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Can do it. My life revolved around heroin for4-5 years… Hustling to get money, going through daily withdrawals, driving40 minutes every day to go amplify and return the items, just so i could get well for that day. But now i know my life doesn’t have to be that. I’m almost30 days sober! Try taking it one step at a time. Choose to do healthy things that keep your mind occupied. If i can do it, so can you 
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Perfectly said. Whenever I start to think that my drinking “wasn’t that bad” I try to remember the rest of the story. A lot of times, I find myself ONLY remembering how I felt after a few… Funny, relaxed, happy, confident… and overlook the rest of what would inevitably happen… regret. Regret of whatever stupid thing I had done the night before. When I play out the whole story in my mind, it makes saying no that much easier.
I completely understand how you feel. For a long time I couldn’t imagine my life without booze. I couldn’t imagine what it would be like not being able to have a glass of champagne at my wedding. Bro-ing out with my guy friends without a cold one. Going on a first date without some liquid courage. These are all things I couldn’t imagine doing without alcohol.
I also can relate to, “I do like drinking but its all the bad stuff that goes with it I don’t like.” I really wish I could separate alcohol from all the negative consequences that result from it. A lot of people can have one or two, get a nice little buzz going and then stop. I am not one of those people and because I am not one of those people, I accept that drinking and bad stuff go hand-in-hand. At the end of the day, you need to come to that realization for yourself because no one can make you accept a self-truth other than you.
If you want, you really can be sober for the rest of your life, and coming to this forum is a great place to start.
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A long time ago I knew that I should probably stop drinking but that little voice in my head said “well nothing really bad has happened from it…yet” so I continued. And it got so much worse.
i realize some people can drink and never have any consequences but I promise you if things are going downhill now with your drinking they will get worse before they get better. One of my good friends decided to drink one more time after 3 months sober out of rehab. She killed two elderly people in a car accident and gets to live in jail with that now.
So anytime someone says “I don’t know if I’m done yet or if I’m that bad” I always have to share that I was that person, and I wish to God I didn’t ignore all the warning signs.
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