Just one leads to just two
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I know for me, one is never one. ‘One’ is waking up sick with no recollection of the night/day before with a 100 messages and missed calls from angry people I’ve upset.
It’s great that you’ve made that decision to go sober. Dating sober can be scary but in the long term so much better. They can get to know YOU. Not the alcohol. When I was dating whilst actively drinking, it was a disaster. Let’s just say no second dates were organised.
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Its so good to hear from others who have been/going through the same thing. Now that ive made the decision to not drink i am actually looking forward to the date instead of constant worry about what state i will get into. The fear the next day is so bad i cant even describe the feeling. So this time its no thank you i choose to be happy. Thank you so much for you comment.
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Well folks my date has been and i failed i got so nervous i ordered a glass of wine but i cut it short after two glassess and said i had to go. Date was really good and i am kinda glad i didnt have more than a few bit disapointed all the same. This is by no means a precedent for future dates i have reset the timer and looking forward
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Sorry about that but glad you managed to stop at two. Did you feel the wine helped with the date? Now that the date has been, can you imagine doing the same without alcohol ?
I actually think that i was more nervous about not being able to have the wine than the date itself. I realised that last night. I know the trigger now and going to a bar/restaurant was probably not the greatest place this early on in my recovery. Next time it will definately be coffee!
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@Onlywayisup I am glad you had a good date. I feel like asking you for juicy details, lol. Kidding, at least as you said, you stopped at 2 and had some food in you to protect your stomach.
I was wondering if you remember specifically what made you nervous? What thoughts were going through your head?
One is too many and a thousand is never enough.
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Hello, how you doing with your sobriety? @Onlywayisup… Weirdly enough i was thinking of you this morning, worrying… Knowing myself and how i go just after one or two, i was worried that you might need extra support with staying straight and narrow 
One is too many and 10 is not enough
Hello, just now i am doing great! But i know im not outa the woods yet. The next night out will be my biggest challenge. I did actually manage to have just two but thats a one off and ive been there before next time it will be 3 then you know how it goes! So next date (and there is one) 
i am going to do better. Thank you for caring !