Sorry to read about your run-in with that Neanderthal. I am very glad to read it didn’t escalate further and that you guys got home safe. I try to use my experiences with unpleasant drunk people as a reminder of why I don’t drink anymore. It has the potential to bring such ugliness out of people.
I hope it hasn’t completely ruined your evening. Good for you for sticking up to him as well. People like that need to be called out, loudly and publicly if possible.
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Day 22. Not fired up.
I run a machine shop, juggling far too many tasks AND training a new employee. I’m stretched and stressed to the F*n max.
Last night ended in a huge blowup with wifey. A topic that has zero resolution and never has.
These are my only two remaining triggers. I called is a day at 8pm, read book for an hour and was done. Still irritated today.
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Or angel dust…
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Day 38. Checking in.
Interesting sober observation.
So I thought I was either getting senile (age 42), or must have a brain tumor (my mom died of a brain tumor) due to how much I was forgetting. Forgetting the names of people I’ve known forever, re-buying groceries bc I didn’t remember that I had already purchased them, etc. I felt like it couldn’t be the alcohol bc I was forgetting things that I did sober. I just wasn’t feeling very sharp and wondered what I would be forgetting next.
But…it must not be senility or a brain tumor bc now that I’m a month sober I am not feeling that horrible feeling of “Come on you should know this!” as much.
Honestly the only reason I didn’t go to my doctor about all that was bc she might have asked about my drinking…and now I don’t feel like I need to go at all!
Results of sobriety are gifts handed out little by little. Today I am thankful for my returning memory 
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Have a great sober day!
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I was given some B12 I think it was by my doctor. Because of just this.
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Same here. However… i did see the doctor a d complained about lack of motivation. It must be low testosterone. Had blood work and everything. I was a dumbass.
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It’s OK to feel stress it’s OK to have a shit day, everyone does. It’s not OK to get wasted it’s not OK to give yourself excuses to get what you want. Hang in there. I would say swallow some pride and apologise to your Mrs and tell her it was you being grumpy and taking out on her, but if she’s anything like mine it would all kick off again. Be strong.
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That was my plan too. Thuesday is my next day off and then I planned to go. Tonight I allready doing something like a workout: drumming in “my” band 
Day 21 just checking in
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Day 1, checking in to hold myself accountable. Hoping good things come everyone’s way today 
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Checking in day 179.
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Checking into day 59.
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Checking-in
Day 11
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@Girlinterrupted
Hang in there and take it one day at a time.
I noticed you are in CLT. I am down the road in GVL SC.
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Hi @Girlinterrupted.
I’m sorry you’re having a difficult time getting back on your feet again. But you’re here and not giving up. That’s good. We never give up, never.
Getting sober again after a relapse is tough. For me, that part seems to get tougher each time. Reach out for help when you need it. we’re here for you.
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Drumming is definitely a workout! Don’t overdo it though!
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Proud of you for calling it a day and making wise choices about being done. I’m familiar with the unresolved marital issues and it does suck. Is there any way to avoid the topic? Sometimes avoiding is better than trying to hash it out when you know there is no resolution available. Sorry about work being so stressful! I hope today is better and the irritation fades. Maybe make a short gratefulness list? Get your mind focused on good thing instead? Just an idea.
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Do you wanna talk a little more about it?
What led up to it? How much did you drink? What did you do while intoxicated? What happened after?
If we put it all on the table, maybe we can relieve some of that shame you’re feeling.
Its ok to feel some shame but you don’t need to live with it for very long in order to learn the lesson.
Shame is like an airline “flotation device”: you need it for a little while, after the plane crash but once you’re back on the ground, you throw it away.
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Starting again is better than giving up. Give yourself some grace and maybe do something to take care of you today. Whether it’s a walk, healthy food, a treat or a favorite way to relax - do something that is in the self-care arena. I know shame is pretty much unavoidable but it doesn’t have to become your identity. You made a mistake but you are not a mistake. You are worth fighting for. Keep fighting and we’ll be here to back you up.
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