I’m sorry to hear this, I can’t even imagine going through that alone. I too worked myself sick, which was catalyst to get sober. My partner had a hard time knowing how to help sometimes, which I now fully understand though.
I am in a loving relationship, and getting sober is shaking things up for sure. What I wanted to communicate in my last post is that I offloaded feeling bored and unstimulated with friends on him, putting the responsibility of making me happy entirely on him. Not fair. I scapegoated him… So this AM, I felt slightly unstimulated by him not connecting with me and then all of a sudden, he became reason I was sad that I have very little friends whom I connect to now…
But yeah, hard in the relationship as well. I’m learning to communicate with him, and tell him what I need. This is really hard for me, so it complicates things . I’m also seeing my behavior and working so hard on that. I want to blame our/my problems on him, but that’s not truth, not right.
He has the same sober days as me, in solidarity. He doesn’t have to, but he’s protecting me and supporting me. ️ And he’s my mirror, which means I can learn so much from understanding how he feels and acts. It helps my sobriety.