Man. It seems like everyone is having a very uplifting Friday morning. I’ve read a bunch of posts already and you guys are inspiring me. Today- Monday is going to be very harried for me. LOTS of work, a wedding 3 hours away (so LOTS of driving), and then more work. I’m going to be in the house by myself tonight which is a definite trigger for me. l am aware that this is a trigger which is good cause I’m looking out for it and can avoid it. Day 13 for me. Let’s do this thing.
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You’ve got this! I hope you enjoy your weekend. Set some intentions for yourself and you’ll sail right through it.
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Hop on here if you need someone to talk to 
and before you know it Monday will be over! Where do you live? It is just Friday here. Sending you strength today!
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That is a big deal !! Super!! Awesome!!
It does feel great doesn’t it? And you’re so worth it.
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P.S. you’re doing awesome, by the way! 
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Congratulations on your 110 days. That is excellent!! Way to go!! I’m very happy to hear that.
Here’s wishing you “one more day at a time”
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Yay Rosa!!! I’m so happy to see you growing! I’m having the same kinds of struggles to be honest. Hubs and I got into a pretty heated argument last night. I feel like I’ve just been staying out of his way and that he’s upset with my constantly. It isn’t fair for me to act this way without communicating my feelings to him. It’s kinda hard adjusting to things without the booze. It was such a crutch for me for such a long time. I’ve been just keeping myself busy too, without really acknowledging all the damages I’ve done to relationships. I think it must be this stage of the process. We’re almost at a month now! The positives will keep on coming!
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Day 25! I didn’t sleep too well last night, but still home waiting on Rona results. I hope to have them today. Hubs and I got into an argument last night. Maybe a nap is in order later. I ordered some groceries to be delivered because I feel like making pumpkin bread. 
fall is my favorite season! But I’m feeling kind of… indifferent today. Glad to still be sober and on this path but wondering what else I should be doing. I don’t feel very happy and I think I should be. I don’t feel very happy with myself and my external appearance. That’s mostly why I drank, to mask the self hatred. I don’t hate myself so much anymore I guess but I don’t like myself either. It’s been all my life. So now I need to figure out what to do to change that since I’m not covering it up anymore.
Happy Friday all!! Hope it is a safe, warm and wonderful day for you!
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I can really relate. I meant to put this in my original post, but I was transferring hiding drinking from my husband (not well, btw) to hiding sobriety, at least hiding talking about it. Communication is so vital, it should be a no brainer but it’s hard! I actually just talked to my husband about how I want to and need to keep talking about it with him rather than keep avoiding the subject and he’s on board. I hope you find some peace with yours and continue talking about it.
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Sending you warm hugs and mugs of cocoa and a pretty figurative mirror for working on self-reflection. It’s all hard work but it’s worth it.
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Thank you!!
Hi Kayla.
Way to go on day 25. I’m glad you posted. I was thinking about you and you waiting on your Covid test. I guess we’ll all keep waiting. Must be frustrating. I read so many times on here about lovely people that aren’t happy with their external appearance and it breaks my heart. But I know your feelings are real. And I always want to say something like “I think your beautiful”. And I do ! I try to say something encouraging but never sure if it helps. I think many of us struggle with that. I got the feet the size of canoes 
and all my hair is just about gone and I got big ears. I wish I looked a bit better myself. All my life. I guess it’s a self esteem thing. I don’t know. I never thought I looked better when I drank. That’s for sure.
I’m making pumpkin bread this weekend too!! It’s been hard finding the canned pumpkin. But I finally got some. I never made it before. Post it on the Foodies thread when you do. If your willing. I know I will be.
Oh. And I like starting my day with my gratitude list. Gets me in a great frame of mind to get my day going in a positive way.
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Thank you for all your kind words! We had a nice talk about everything this morning. How we both need to communicate and try harder. We have been through so much together, but this is totally new territory. I’ve had bouts of sobriety before, but always on my own, never when I was with someone, let alone for this amount of time. And times are weird enough as is! I hope that you have a wonderful day my friend. So happy to share my sober birthday with someone like you!
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As always, I am so thankful for your responses and support! You truly are a blessing! I never thought I looked better drunk, (quite the contrary! 
) but it at least kept me from dwelling on it. I’ve had digestive issues for the last 4.5 years too, and there is definitely a mind-gut connection. It’s hard to step away from the discomfort when it’s been so constant. Not surprisingly, I’ve been feeling better the last week or so (not as bloated!) and that’s been helping my self esteem. I know there are other things I can do to help, I’m just needed to get motivated!
I will definitely post pictures! And recipe, and you do the same! I’m hoping the store isn’t out of pumpkin! Glad you were able to find some!
I like the gratitude list- this is a wonderful idea. For as many things as I don’t like about myself, I have so much to be grateful for. I have wonderful family and friends, adorable dogs, a job I actually tolerate. I am fully functional- all extremities, sight, speech, no chronic conditions! And don’t ever doubt how much your kind words help- they absolutely do!! Grateful to have you around! 
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It’s Friday here too. I live in KS. Thanks for the encouragement. 
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I’m here, I’m alive and I’m sober.
Day 33.
Teen won’t come home this weekend because they’re having a cold at her boyfriends house. Friends of us have been visiting and American grocery store where they live, so I’ll be getting some American groceries, mostly candy but I’m thrilled anyway.
And there’s still a lot of drama going on, I’ll make an update about that tomorrow. Disney + have finally got a headline with all Halloween episodes of series I thought was long gone and Halloween movies collected so I’ll stilk be in Happy Fall Mode no matter what, and I’ll be putting up my Halloween decorations soon. We’ve decided to give the boys a Boo Basket, similar to the Easter baskets, since Trick or treating in US won’t happened this year, and our Trunk or Treat won’t either. Still waiting for the Covid-19 results for my 8 y/o and have to stay in the house until they comes. I probably have to do a blood test for antibodies, required by my village, mostly because everyone around me have been sick a lot, but I only had a “normal” cold once. We’ll see what happens.
Wishing y’all an amazing weekend 
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coming from the man who call himself 666, the number of the beast. 
yoga = union. (derived from yoke) so at least we are always half way right / half way there. and without it we get backpain or maybe even sciatica
black and white thinking however might be a slipery slope for many of us.
it can fall both ways.
so sometimes balance between the 2 is all we can do
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I’m here and sober now about to hit my 15th day tonight!!! I so thankful for making it this far and all the support I’m getting through it all, thank you to everyone 
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Great catch!
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Happy to report here with 3 weeks clean 
Today has been phone call after phone call, and they have all been really difficult, but I did all the creditor ones. Some are making me default. My bank are closing my account but I found an online bank and they’ve accepted me, so then I had lots more phone calls to make to change my bank details for the direct debits, more to make next week. I haven’t been able to get any of my cleaning done, so I will be up early to get it all done before the viewing on my flat
I’m so freezing cold, I think it’s time to bring out the pyjamas!
I really can’t believe it’s been 3 weeks already, although the days sometimes seem long, they do quickly add up, I’m so grateful for sobriety and all of you here 
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