# Checking in daily to maintain focus #37
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Created:** [December 27, 2021, 4:51pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559 "2021-12-27T16:51:30Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 15
### Author:  [@anon52066378](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon52066378)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 5:51pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/310 "2021-12-30T17:51:14Z")
So, I’m just gonna shoot straight from the hip with this one @Butterflymoonwoman.
It seems to me that he still wants to control any aspect of your life that he can, he abused you for years and you finally got away. Now he can’t control you and abuse you physically he has resorted to contacting you and abusing you emotionally and mentally again!
You got away because nothing good could come of being in an abusive relationship. You don’t need him for closure, all that you would be doing is opening yourself up to more abuse, opening old wounds and leaving yourself vulnerable. The mention by him of the tattoo is just a way of trying to lure you into his trap and hoping that he can control you, get you back and use it as a way to emotionally blackmail you and then abuse you again!
Love yourself enough to know you are better without him and are more than enough! A strong independent woman who is a survivor!
Love and hugs your way
🤗❤🙏
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### Author:  [@seekingsolace](https://talkingsober.com/u/seekingsolace)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 6:11pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/311 "2021-12-30T18:11:50Z")
Thanks @Its_me_Stella . Such great advice I appreciate you sharing it. I will do exactly that today and going forward. Sometimes it’s tough to swim out of those thoughts but getting reminders like yours and skills to do it really helps. ❤
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### Author:  [@Rockstar24777](https://talkingsober.com/u/Rockstar24777)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 6:12pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/312 "2021-12-30T18:12:51Z")
Day 566 clean and sober today. Love you guys. 🕶🤘🏻
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### Author:  [@anon9289869](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon9289869)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 6:16pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/313 "2021-12-30T18:16:45Z")
Day 519
Was talking to my dad about what we wanted to have out for snacks on new year’s and the conversation went from a simple little plate of cheese and crackers to me teaching him about charcuterie boards - then all of a sudden we found ourselves at the store buying 5 types of cheeses, 3 crackers, two sausages, heaps of fruit and veg, pickles, and pepperoncinis. We were purely talking about it jokingly and how it has become so trendy but now it has turned into our own elaborate endeavor.
Volunteering at a local winter endurance race all day Saturday. Looking forward to hanging out on at a cabin on a frozen lake and helping racers. This is one of the big three for the Order of the Hrimthurs that I want to race in the future after I’ve had my knee surgery so I’m really looking forward to it and seeing everyone’s set ups.
As I don’t seem to come on here often anymore I will wish you all a happy new year now! I am so grateful for this community and reading everyone’s daily journeys reminds me to protect my sobriety and not become complacent. Wishing you all the best!
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### Author:  [@adeygaga49](https://talkingsober.com/u/adeygaga49)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 6:29pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/315 "2021-12-30T18:29:09Z")
So far so good. It helps that I was not one for going out much in recent years and my friend and I are celebrating New Years together and she’s not drinking either. We’ve got alcohol free Prosecco. I found Boxing Day was the day I struggled but it was for emotional reasons more than anything. I will hit 1 year sober at 8 pm tomorrow night but I’m still not taking that for granted. Stay strong you know it’s worth it
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### Author:  [@Nordique](https://talkingsober.com/u/Nordique)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 6:34pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/318 "2021-12-30T18:34:12Z")
I love this update man! Except for the family part, of course. Glad you’re grabbing life by the horns though 💪
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### Author:  [@Bassanova](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bassanova)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 7:01pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/320 "2021-12-30T19:01:21Z")
Another day of sobriety. Grateful . Praying for all and have a great New Years tomorrow.
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### Author:  [@KevinesKay](https://talkingsober.com/u/KevinesKay)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 7:11pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/321 "2021-12-30T19:11:31Z")
Celebrating day 66.
Have a great sober Thursday everyone!
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### Author:  [@icebear](https://talkingsober.com/u/icebear)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 8:26pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/322 "2021-12-30T20:26:54Z")
Day 202. Made it home. Not going to lie, friends; I am emotionally exhausted. I feel like I have a feelings-migraine. Is that a thing? The kids are climbing up the walls, as they have been couped up in planes and cars. My partner seems to be keeping a cold distance these days, and I am just trying to process the whirlwind of emotions of visiting my parents and childhood home again. Now I am just overwhelmed. This is definitely one of the states for which I used to turn to alcohol as a coping mechanism. I will be honest, I had some sneaky thoughts earlier when we were refueling the car near a liquor store. This time of year is just tough, you know?
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### Author:  [@Singtone](https://talkingsober.com/u/Singtone)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 8:29pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/323 "2021-12-30T20:29:38Z")
I hear you, Drew. Well done for getting through it. 💥💪🏻
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### Author:  [@Singtone](https://talkingsober.com/u/Singtone)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 8:32pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/324 "2021-12-30T20:32:05Z")
Checking in as day 361 draws to a close.
Happy to be sober today. Grateful to friends here.
Have a great sober day, wherever you are.
Goodnight. 😴💤
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### Author:  [@SelfLove\_42](https://talkingsober.com/u/SelfLove_42)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 8:46pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/325 "2021-12-30T20:46:15Z")
Thank you for typing this. I kept writing out something very similar and deleting it cause i didn’t want it to be taken the wrong way. Ditto on your comments!
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### Author:  [@Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dazercat)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 8:46pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/326 "2021-12-30T20:46:18Z")
Congratulations on the double sevens Mike. Loved your gif and check in. It’s great to see you keeping at it. Happy New Year to you and the girls. 🙏🏻❤
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### Author:  [@Butterflymoonwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Butterflymoonwoman)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 8:52pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/327 "2021-12-30T20:52:11Z")
This time of year is SO tough. Those migraines based off emotions… I call those emotional hangovers lol cuz they stem from feeling overwhelmed and exhausted from emotions. I’m glad your working through it tho each day and staying clean and sober. Glad ur coming on here and posting about it too. It’s so important that we get stuff out
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### Author:  [@Scrammbles](https://talkingsober.com/u/Scrammbles)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 9:21pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/328 "2021-12-30T21:21:47Z")
Day 40!
Pretty tired today, not really sure why though, maybe I didn’t sleep as well as I thought.
Took last night off and this morning off from doing any work around the new apartment, just kicked back and relaxed.
Although wore out from my current work schedule feeling pretty good these days.
Got some friends keeping a look out on facebook (I deleted mine) for kittens so keep your fingers crossed for me!
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### Author:  [@anon52066378](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon52066378)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 9:24pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/329 "2021-12-30T21:24:02Z")
**33 Days**
Slow starting day following a broken nights sleep. Once I was up and about though it was a very eventful day.
I’m thankful for another day spent sober and in the moment.
Chalk up another day to the making memories for the right reasons column and do the same tomorrow.
Goals have been sent for 2022. I believe it’s important to visualise where I want to be, that way I know where I have to correct my path, they are realistic and I will do all I can in my power to achieve and surpass them if possible.
Dream big, believe bigger, achieve more!
❤🙏🤗
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### Author:  [@RosaCanDo](https://talkingsober.com/u/RosaCanDo)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 9:38pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/330 "2021-12-30T21:38:24Z")
> [@icebear](#):
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> exhausted. I feel like I have a feelings-migraine
I totally relate to this. I don’t know if it’s a “thing,” but it’s a great way to describe that emotional exhaustion and overwhelm. Hope you get time to decompress and the kills chill out soon!
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### Author:  [@Butterflymoonwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Butterflymoonwoman)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 9:38pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/331 "2021-12-30T21:38:55Z")
Ur absolutely right… it is exactly what he is doing. I would never go back to him. I have such a good life now and he deserves no space in it. I could never be with someone who has do e those kinds of things to me. And ur right also… about having closure. It would he setting myself up for more hurt. I’m glad u wrote this as it helped me to see the reality of this situation. Thank you 🙂
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### Author:  [@Butterflymoonwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Butterflymoonwoman)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 9:41pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/332 "2021-12-30T21:41:30Z")
Proud of you Richard 🙂 you are getting this recovery thing one day at a time! I like the idea of visualizing where I want to be in 2022. How do u set up ur goals? Do u set a time and date for completion? Etc. I think I will set some time to make some goals for myself also.
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### Author:  [@anon53116147](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon53116147)
#### Post date: [December 30, 2021, 9:43pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-37/132559/333 "2021-12-30T21:43:14Z")
For sure man, thank you and glad to see you back out there killing your dreams. Much love
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