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Talking Sober is just a website, so its universally the same on every device.
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Unfortunately or fortunately (however you want to look at it), the forum is a very public site and anyone on the internet can see your posts here with the exception of things posted in the lounge or in private messages.
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@SelfLove_42 welcome back 
@mewmcmew sending strength 
@emi welcome back congrats on your continued sobriety 
@Hoss welcome glad you found us 
927 days no alcohol.
392 days no cocaine.
14 days no vape.
18 hours no binge-eating, no crisps.
TW: mentions food and binge-eating.
I attended the workshop last night, it was the same one as before but with additional info and insights. Safe to say, the workshop ended, and the next thing I know I’ve been to the shop, bought, and eaten, 2 big bags of crisps and 2 packs of mango chunks. So I was clearly triggered by it. It happened so fast like I was in total dissociated auto-pilot. I’m not beating myself up, but will need to make a plan for after next week’s workshop, to try to prevent the same thing from happening. That’s hoping I can string a week back together between now and then. 
I didn’t sleep well again, so I’ve been fatigued today. Did my morning walk. Meditated. Relaxed with my cats.
I’m checking-in early because my cat food delivery is arriving some time between now and 5:45pm, so I will have to hope it comes before it gets too dark, as I’m hoping to get out for my afternoon walk once I’ve received it.
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The public threads (of which this is one) are open to the internet. However, PMs / private messages between members or groups of members are private. (You can send messages to a person by tapping their icon and if they have permitted others to message them, a Message button will be there - you tap that.)
There are benefits in recovery to having a public space where outsiders can see in and “test the waters”, get a feel for it, before they post (or even if they don’t create an account at all, if they’re just readers in the public at large). Recovery is a process of letting go of shame, it’s a process of finding yourself and of coming out from hiding in your addiction. With the public threads being visible, people who are wanting to get healthy, who want to leave the craziness of addiction and find safety and life - those people can get a taste here, then if and when they can, they can participate in recovery actively (here on Talking Sober and/or in another recovery community).
Having these threads being public does mean that you need to be aware of that when you post. This also is not uncommon in recovery communities. Recovery groups (at least, all the groups I’ve participated in, including SMART Recovery and Sexaholics Anonymous) don’t check ID at the door, and they don’t force people to talk. (At least I’ve never been in a meeting where people are forced to talk.) They also usually remind attendees that anything that’s shared should be something that has already been handled in a legal process (meaning, if you’ve done something criminal or illegal, you should seek legal counsel; a recovery group is helpful and you absolutely can ask for a referral to a lawyer, but a recovery group is not the place to disclose illegal matters before you’ve spoken with a lawyer).
So altogether what this means is that having recovery spaces be public and accessible is helpful, and attendees understand that they can identify themselves and share in a way that’s helpful for them. These boundaries and expectations are helpful on our journeys.
Welcome to Talking Sober! 
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Catmancam can!!!
Amazing work done on your sobriety
I just thought I’d mention ya because your always thoughtful in mentioning others
For me personally, I appreciate seeing your posts
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Day 111 no alcohol
Day 5 no marijuana
I got my jobbbbbbb
!!!
I start tomorrow at 3pm or 15:00
I am so happy
I’ve been stressing over that job for weeks
I worked my ass off and got the paperwork I needed. I’m very proud I followed through
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Awesome! Keep up the good work!
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Day 47. Sleep wasn’t terrible. Managed 6 hours of work. Everything is still a struggle. But baby steps.
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Thank you Menno 
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Checking in with 331 days sober 
Much love x
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Good morning from Australia my friends 
Checking in today to maintain focus. 
My guide for today?
- A cold shower
- A healthy breaky
- Meditating
- Jogging
- Working out
- Signing up to a gym & kickboxing club
- A few important phone calls & emails
- Prepping for uni resumption
- A healthy, cooked lunch
- Maybe some motorcycling
- Eve work
- Meditating
- Early bedtime without electronics
Just a guide since each day is unique, and good so… 
What to always stay mindful of: ‘life begins at the end of my comfort zone’! 
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Evening Check In
Day 375
I oddly feel really good today! Wth happened idk lol i got up and didnt beat myself up for not going to the gym at 530am. Instead i had coffee and enjoyed my morning. Got ready for a coffee meet with a friend which was very nice. Got my son some Pedialite to help with potential dehydration from his stomach flu. Then came home to do 2 loads of laundry, do dishes, make and eat supper, figure out my bills for tomorrows payday, give my son a bath to freshen him up, and begin the process of putting him to bed. And i actually enjoyed every minute of it. I could have grumbled through it but im grateful for the laundry and dishes i have to do, bcuz that just means i have clothes to wear and food to eat off these plates. Im grateful for the home that i have to clean, bcuz it shows me that i have a place to live. Its all in perspective for sure. Of course my perspective changes from day to day lol but i will try to remember that i actually GET to do these things, not that i necessarily HAVE to do these things and grumble through them. Anyway, hoping you are all well. Going to sit on TS for a bit and catch up. Im very behind 
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@Noshame huge congratulations on you mew job!!! Im so proud of u for pushing thru and getting everything u needed for it. Way to go! What will u be doing exactly?
@anon53116147 im so sorry ur having to go thru this. You dont owe anything to anyone and its almost bullying behavior of him to be doing this. Definitely sounds like this was a learning experience. I know for myself that i went from being a super people pleaser… not able to set boundaries and couldnt express how i truly felt which in turned harmed me greatly, to being super blunt and forward… almost to the point of being rude. I think we find our balance overtime in how we communicate to others. But either way u have to come first. It hurts ourselves the most when we arent able to speak our truth and set boundaries with others. And unfortunately what we allow people to do, they will continue to do. You could still approach this person and mention that youre focused on ur recovery right now and dont have time at the moment to draw or sketch. How he reactes to that is his issue. No can make u feel anything. We technically allow ourselves to feel certain ways based on others reactions but at the end of the day, no one can make us feel anything 
@emi glad u checked in!!
@SelfLove_42 welcome back
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Day 927
Urgh, it was a bit of a late night, (for middle-aged me, anyway) and obviously WAY too much oolong tea because my sleep was just awful, and now I have a sleep deprivation headache, no energy, and basically feel a bit hungover. A couple of people got a bit tipsy and noisy and sloppy. It is interesting to watch with totally sober eyes.
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I gotta say i think the gratitude is working for you @KarenKW your posts are hopeful these days. Youve come so far from day 1. Proud of you!!
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That is super unusual! Growing up i lived in mendocino for several years and i don’t recall ever seeing snow! Its been a snowy winter here in co. Im so looking forward to spring and warmer weather!
Bye for now…
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That is so awesome!! Congratulations and keep us posted on how your first day goes!
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