Thanks Mno, very kind words which has given me strength and hope. Thank you. Feel free to reach out if you need a friend❤️
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Hey all, checking in on day 1,093. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Day 4 - checking in, sober from alcohol
Woke up with a hangover feeling this morning…
Realising it was obviously effected by a hot summer night. Didn’t drink yesterday, will not drink today, tomorrow is a new day.
I will start making gifts to myself for the milestones again. For day 7 I will have a long side sleepers pillow to have something to cuddle when I am lonely at night. Thanks for this idea @JazzyS
Much L O V E
Stay strong!
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I’m really sorry to hear about your mum and your husband. That’s heartbreaking 
My mum had a brain injury when I turned 18, it was an infection in her brain from Ross river virus that turned into encephalitis. And it was so tough to watch her change, I can’t imagine what you are going through with your husband now.
I hope you have some other support in your family.
I’m happy to hear your keeping sober for yourself, these kinds of struggles are best met with a clear mind, alcohol helps numb the pain but it’s only temporary and it makes it worse in the end. I got sober when my mum became terminal and I don’t think I could have dealt with what life dealt me if I didn’t. I wish you all the best, please reach out here, or message me if you ever want to chat 
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Checking in 439 days 
It was a pretty Monday-y Monday 
Happy to be home, took a walk with my dog and husband. Happy to be sober, ready to rest this evening and wake up with a clear head to face the new day.
I hope you all have a wonderful day/evening wherever you are 
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Hi Alycia, thank you for sharing your experience with me.
I could only imagine how tough it was to see your mum go through what she did. To maintain sobriety is really amazing, i truly take my hat off to you. My biggest fear is relapsing to numb the pain, but hearing you made it through your hardship while sober gives me hope, especially through such a traumatic experience. I’m deeply appreciative for your words 
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Day 904,
Had a therapy session. Was really a though one. Discussed my avoidance and dependency, which I had basically all of my life. Dependency and abuse go hand in hand. Now I have an understanding were my feeling of abuse comes from. I have been abused in all kind of ways. Now I have the choice to keep avoiding or go through it. If I choose life I need to go through my avoidance. Discussed whether I need help with that. That would mean some dependency on someone who comes to help me for instance twice a week the discuss my planning and helps me with living my life. It’s a though one, but on the other hand it’s not. I have be to honest to my self I might need such help, although it feels like a defeat. Need some strength now. 
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No defeat at all Rob. Same with addiction. We need help to sort ourselves out. We can’t do it on our own. I always had a hard time with the idea of being powerless over my addiction. But I can see how I am powerless ALONE.
And I know the feeling. For me feeling defeated by accepting outside help stems directly from my childhood, from learning to never trust anyone, to figure it all out on my own, to allow nobody into my life. Adult live is accepting we need other people in our life. We need help.
Two weeks ago I had maybe the most intimate moment in my life when I let my therapist into my head and together we rescripted a scene from my youth, when my mother made me feel even more lonely than I already did. My therapist was with me and took me out of the situation and into the warm sun (after her talking to my mother failed).
I talked to my therapist last Friday and told I felt somehow a bit bad, a bit of a loser, letting a professional into my head and heart like that while not being able to do so with my friends (yet). Her answer was “but that’s where I am for and that’s why you are in therapy, right?” Point taken Rob. No defeat. Growth.
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Day 3 and the struggle is real. I’m fighting constant cravings for THC as I suffer from periodic sickness and body aches. My daughter’s first birthday was on the 10th and I have to remind myself that I’m cleaning up for her - to be more alert, to get a job, to stop the anxiety that comes from smoking, etc.
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@AlexWayhill enjoy your vacation 
@Jasty2 sending healing vibes
@Hayleylujah congrats on your year 
@anon15828629 congrats on your week
@Chosen2001 welcome back congrats on double digits
@JazzyS thank you I will continue and monitor how I feel after the groups.
@Amy30 I would be on edge too! I hope thst your peace will be restored soon, sending soothing vibes
@jjcarson92 congrats on 41 months
@icebear congrats on 2 years
@nastya_is_fighting congrats on 2 weeks
1035 days no alcohol.
500 days no cocaine.
15 days no vape.
13 days no binge-eating.
Checking-in for yesterday…
Yesterday was calm and peaceful. I did all of my usual things, and spent a lot of time reading here. Today will be the same.
🩵
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210 days.
Came off the new meds for my back problem. Totally messed with me. I’d rather have pain than feel so weird.
Heading out for some essentials and a haircut.
I can officially report that it’s way too hot in the UK. 30 degrees or about 90 if you prefer. We do cold and wet much better here. 
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@Jeds thank you for sharing, sending strength 🩵
@crankyhag welcome congrats on your days so far
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Welcome to Talking Sober Rae. Hope you’ll find this place as supportive as I have for the last years. Fighting addiction alone is neigh impossible, but together we have a good chance of beating it. And that’s what we do here. Sharing helps. Hope getting support helps too. Lots of knowledge and lots of support right here. All success to you from this fellow weed addict. Never again.
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Abother great idea I learned few days ago is to watch videos about alcohol harm, listen stories, occupy mind with that information, every day spend some time learning about it, learning from others.
In a way it is like feeding positive ( +) or ( - ) negative informational weight about alcohol. It then sits in our subconscious mind. We are adding that ( - ) negative weight day by day through all of our live since childhood.
Problem with alcohol as a drug is that our society, our whole system is corrupted by this parasite and we are being brainwashed about alcohol every day, brainwashed from already using and addicted friends, commercials, adds, movies, music…
We get that negative weigh ( - ) without even trying.
Now the point is to start working on that ( + ) positive side. Give at least hour or two or as much as we can like instead of listening music or instead of something that can be exchanged. Do this more and more - to charge that oposite ( + ) positive pole. Then we will start see things in more rational way, see the full picture.
It’s quite a good tip. We can’t get hurt by investing into sobriety. Spending more time on it. Expanding our understanding - /+ expanding our consciousness.
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333 new posts… 
Hope ur doing good sober fam 
I intend to go to sleep early tonight after my night shift, without browsing anything. And to wake up at 8am to meditate. 
And I intend to complete my uni, jog and do work out tomorrow before work…
Hope you have a good day or night whoever and wherever you are reading this right now! 
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@Scorpn how did your Sunday go – sorry you had a stressful meal with an ex. Hope your overall celebratory weekend was fun and relaxing.
@Soberwalker that is a beautiful pendant. I do hope they are either able to find your other package or at least get you a replacement. 
@amy30 I can’t imagine having my safe space encroached upon by negativity. You are handling this very well and YES you survived the big cravings. Each day passed is a day you become stronger. UGH – sorry that your dad needs to insult people to feel better about himself.
Yeah to this and hold onto this feeling today! Wishing you the best of luck my friend — remember we are always here for you
@nastya_is_fighting – very cool picture! So thrilled that you new class is so awesome
@Jeds Loads of hugs my friend – I am so sorry that you are going through so much but super proud that you are doing all this sober. Do know that you are able to come here and share your journey and vent when needed to just unload it off of your plate (just writing the words down and hitting send sometimes is the best release). Good to hear from you and hope to see you around more
@Juli1 So excited for your day 4 and making a list of milestone rewards. Glad that the feeling was not an actual hangover – these phantom feelings don’t last and definitely don’t create havoc on your system
@crankyhag Congrats on day 3 and welcome to this amazing community. Here you will find the support / love and advice you need to keep you sober. You are not alone – here you are among friends. I’m sorry you are struggling – Do know it gets easier. Remind yourself of why you are quitting and find ways to distract yourself when the urges hit. Scroll around this site – I find it to be the most helpful distraction
@catmancam – 2 weeks + vape free and 2 weeks no binge eating – YOU ROCK! Wow – I almost missed your numbers — Congrats my friend. You really are doing an amazing job 
@1in8billion love the angel numbers 
@wcan A huge congrats on your 4 digits my friend !!! Damn that’s a great accomplishment 
Checking in on Monday morning
It’s a bit gloomy but luckily not so hot (think we sent our heat to the UK 
) I am gearing up for a super busy day but am feeling great about. Didn’t sleep much last night but oddly feel ok today and not needing to over fuel myself with coffee. I plan on having an amazing Monday and wish you all do the same - sending much love
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Congratulations! 
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Before and after the meal was good.
He just kept talking bad about my big girl saying things like “I’ve been gone too long” and “seeing them once a week isn’t enough” " you let her do x,y,z"
She has a lot of anxiety and also lived through trauma that happened around age 7. She does act like a small child a lot of times even though she’s 13. But it’s because of her past…
And she wasn’t “being bad” she said she was tired and had a headache and wanted to lay her head down, and didn’t want to talk, etc…
He just irritates me. Because he was the CAUSE of her trauma, but doesn’t want to “deal” with the person she became because of it. 
Outside of the meal. We hung out and enjoyed the rain + cooler temperature 
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Oh love im sorry hes such an ass and you / your girl had to deal with his bs.
So thrilled that you had a great weekend otherwise.
We are experiencing cooler temps too…enjoying them now but shouldve brought a jacket …
Gotta love mother nature
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