# Checking in daily to maintain focus #63

**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Created:** [February 5, 2024, 5:57pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494 "2024-02-05T17:57:49Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author: ![Davina\_Davis](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/davina_davis/32/500416_2.png) [@Davina\_Davis](https://talkingsober.com/u/Davina_Davis)
#### Post date: [February 16, 2024, 9:33pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/911 "2024-02-16T21:33:54Z")

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Checking in on day 50!! Hope everyone has a great weekend

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### Author: ![IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/iamthechange/32/284334_2.png) [@IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/u/IamThechange)
#### Post date: [February 16, 2024, 9:44pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/912 "2024-02-16T21:44:15Z")

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Congrats on day 50! ODAAT!  
✌🏼 and 💜

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### Author: ![CATMANCAM](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/catmancam/32/318904_2.png) [@CATMANCAM](https://talkingsober.com/u/CATMANCAM)
#### Post date: [February 16, 2024, 9:48pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/913 "2024-02-16T21:48:54Z")

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@zzz I **love** that! Thank you 😊  
@Just_Laura congrats on your year 🎉🏆🌟  
@acromouse thank you 🫂🩵 I hope you enjoy(ed) your game 😊  
@Mno I love how that Seagull (?) is literally sitting on the bench looking out at the water, made my day a little brighter 😊 I hope you had a good therapy session 🫂🩵  
@Amy30 exciting 🌍✈🌞 I’m glad you’re feeling a little better 😊  
@Misokatsu sorry about the bureaucracy, that sounds overly intrusive 🙄  
@Tragicfarinelli congrats on 50 days 🎉 well done for getting through the assessment 🫂🩵  
@IamThechange I hope everything went well today 🫂 and I’m happy to read about the hopeful prognosis 😊  
@Deelzebub that cake and the cabaret ride sound like so much fun 🥳  
@JazzyS thank you 😊 I’m sorry you are suffering so much today 🫂 sending you strength healing vibes 🩵:sparkles:

1285 days no alcohol.  
750 days no cocaine.  
265 days no vape.  
10 days no binge-eating.

Saw the nurse, had my blood test and Testosterone shot. Showed her my back, she said it was bad but that there was nothing treatable. I said I had some Aloe Vera gel, and she said to keep applying that. She didn’t appear to know what it was, whereas I know from my extensive anxious Google research, that it’s called Erythema Ab Igne. I am going to give it a week or two, then request a doctor’s opinion, because based on all of what I’ve read, I think I will need to see a Dermatologist for biopsies/long-term monitoring.

While I was driving to my appointment and back home, the Sun was shining and I felt good, but once I’d been home a while it went all dull and grey outside and so did my mood. So I’ve just been laying with my cats and doing some meditations.

Today is the first day this week that I haven’t done any walking, so tomorrow I plan to do my walk regardless of the weather. I also plan to do some more declutttering and cleaning.

Wishing you all wonderful sober weekends. 😊

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### Author: ![CATMANCAM](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/catmancam/32/318904_2.png) [@CATMANCAM](https://talkingsober.com/u/CATMANCAM)
#### Post date: [February 16, 2024, 9:49pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/914 "2024-02-16T21:49:12Z")

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@Davina_Davis congrats on 50 days 🎉

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### Author: ![Tomek](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/tomek/32/145435_2.png) [@Tomek](https://talkingsober.com/u/Tomek)
#### Post date: [February 16, 2024, 10:05pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/915 "2024-02-16T22:05:03Z")

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Checking in. Today I slipped into an overthinking spiral that left me in a bad mood, but hopefully it helps me to realize that I have to move on, because everything else is a dead end. I mean I know it, but I don’t yet feel it deeply enough. Nothing else to report, I just have a busy weekend ahead of me full of work.

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### Author: ![Lainenicole96](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/lainenicole96/32/429111_2.png) [@Lainenicole96](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lainenicole96)
#### Post date: [February 16, 2024, 10:46pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/916 "2024-02-16T22:46:05Z")

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Well if you see my recent post you’d know I was let go of my esthetics program because of a verbal altercation I had with another student which was a really hard pill to swallow and led me back to sobriety and really prioritizing my mental health (the blessing in the pain), and that I was nervous about trying to get into this other school. Well I went to tour it today and it went the best it could have considering the circumstances. The owner is the sweetest lady, she was welcoming understanding and is willing to help me as much as she can to help me get financial help. And if I can’t get financial help, I do have savings and she is more than willing to give me a chance anyways. 🥹 praying I can get financial help of course, but sometimes you have pay for your mistakes quite literally. 😑 and investing in my future will be very much worth it. They have more to offer at this school and is a much more welcoming environment, so I am trying to see the positives in this. I was going for an esthetics program which I might do here instead but they also offer a master esthetics program which would be even better but is of course more expensive. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers that this will work out for me. The guilt and shame that led to these consequences are difficult to face, but I’m proud of myself for still trying. I’m taking a social media break because I’m finding myself struggling with what others will think when they notice I stopped posting what I’m doing at school and I seem to have “failed” at something I was so proud of and that’s really embarrassing to me. But what others think shouldn’t be my focus. It’s what I think of myself, which isn’t good either, lol…but I’m trying to fix that, and that’s what matters.

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### Author: ![EarnIt](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/earnit/32/549200_2.png) [@EarnIt](https://talkingsober.com/u/EarnIt)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:00am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/917 "2024-02-17T00:00:12Z")

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Day 49. Having hit that number numerous time, I have to concentrate on not losing my mind on congrats, on these days, from another group. It’s one of the things that takes no place in my life. I am working on not calling out people (in my head) over bull. Touché on that deed.

“Success is an active process of accomplishments along the way.” This is from the app. I rarely use the app and was happy to see this. Yes, people - here’s to ALL accomplishments!

A lot is really a hard time in my life. Some of the people in my life make it delusional that I make it through the day.

Let’s just give happiness to the tidbit of flavor in my tuna salad sandwich. I am convinced that being alcohol-free helps the taste and smell issue. There is more I’ve looked up that I need to utilize every day. When you do look it up: 30% of people who get it back get it at 6 months. That’ll be next month.

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### Author: ![IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/iamthechange/32/284334_2.png) [@IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/u/IamThechange)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:18am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/918 "2024-02-17T00:18:25Z")

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Thank you doll 🥰. Find out in a week what “grade” it is, that’s what they refer to it as instead of stage. Hopefully it’s a low grade 🙏 and with that surgery should take care of it, no chemo and no radiation and my fur baby will be a cancer survivor ❤

Enjoy your walk and cleaning, I swear cleaning kept me sane today ✌🏼 and 💜

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### Author: ![Lisa-B](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/lisa-b/32/390294_2.png) [@Lisa-B](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lisa-B)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:25am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/919 "2024-02-17T00:25:09Z")

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Checking in on day 50. I’ve gotten into the 40s a couple of times before but never to 50. This time feels different. I have a totally different mindset. I’m eating & sleeping better, doing exercise, being a lot more sociable. Feeling a lot happier in myself & my new outlook on alcohol.

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### Author: ![Lisa-B](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/lisa-b/32/390294_2.png) [@Lisa-B](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lisa-B)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:28am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/920 "2024-02-17T00:28:25Z")

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Hi @Davina_Davis same number! We quit the same day. Yay for us 😃

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### Author: ![IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/iamthechange/32/284334_2.png) [@IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/u/IamThechange)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:30am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/921 "2024-02-17T00:30:25Z")

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Congrats on your 50 days!!! 🎉  
✌🏼 and 💜

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### Author: ![Lisa-B](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/lisa-b/32/390294_2.png) [@Lisa-B](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lisa-B)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:36am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/922 "2024-02-17T00:36:18Z")

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@IamThechange thank you so much. I never thought I’d ever feel happy without alcohol (and nicotine) and I never thought I’d feel so proud to be sober for this long. ✌&🩷 back at ya 🤓

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### Author: ![IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/iamthechange/32/284334_2.png) [@IamThechange](https://talkingsober.com/u/IamThechange)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:43am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/923 "2024-02-17T00:43:45Z")

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You deserve all the happiness! Ride the wave 😊 one day at a time ❤

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### Author: ![Sara.eve](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/sara.eve/32/528005_2.png) [@Sara.eve](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sara.eve)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:44am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/924 "2024-02-17T00:44:05Z")

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I feel good today  
It was really a great week for me  
I am so thankful  
I feel different in my head and in my heart  
I see the world differently…the colors are different…I feel love and happiness in my heart like never before…  
I still have negative feelings but I feel them with less intensity and letting go of them is easier…  
Thanks to all of you for your support  
Lots of love  
Bisou

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### Author: ![Happy\_Trails](https://talkingsober.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/h/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Happy\_Trails](https://talkingsober.com/u/Happy_Trails)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 12:59am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/925 "2024-02-17T00:59:16Z")

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Checking in day 46. Kept busy today and I am getting the “little” things done and I am glad about that. Wishing us all a lovely sober weekend.

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### Author: ![Steve92](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/steve92/32/462200_2.png) [@Steve92](https://talkingsober.com/u/Steve92)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 1:10am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/926 "2024-02-17T01:10:45Z")

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25 days weed free. 2019 days alcohol free. Anxiety and depression have been bad today

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### Author: ![Davina\_Davis](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/davina_davis/32/500416_2.png) [@Davina\_Davis](https://talkingsober.com/u/Davina_Davis)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 2:05am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/927 "2024-02-17T02:05:00Z")

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Congrats on 50 days tooooo. 🤩🤩

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### Author: ![Mira\_D](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/mira_d/32/387123_2.png) [@Mira\_D](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mira_D)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 2:28am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/928 "2024-02-17T02:28:33Z")

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Long drive to the city, made it in one piece 🙂  
Happy to be here all together again with my mon & nephew. Daughter gets to see her friend tomorrow, and we’ll have a lottle bday celebration for our son on Sunday 🙂  
Happy Family Day weekend!

Something I know about myself is that I am very hard on myself and my expectations of me are very big. Learning who I am again; and who I am now, through all of this. Life is a trip xo .

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### Author: ![MrFantastik](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/mrfantastik/32/379210_2.png) [@MrFantastik](https://talkingsober.com/u/MrFantastik)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 3:00am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/929 "2024-02-17T03:00:30Z")

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77 days in the bank

Frustrating day on what should have been a great day. Dropped my wife off at her trail event then went to go ride my bike on some trails. Had a few mechanical issues that cut my ride short and left me with a walk back to the car.  
On my walk, in the shitty mood I was in, it occurred to me that not once had I thought f#\*k it I should get some beers. Progress I guess.  
It was still a good day in the most part.  
@JazzyS hope you feel better soon

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### Author: ![JazzyS](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/jazzys/32/481728_2.png) [@JazzyS](https://talkingsober.com/u/JazzyS)
#### Post date: [February 17, 2024, 3:03am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-63/178494/930 "2024-02-17T03:03:54Z")

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@davina_davis Way to go with your 50 days of sobriety love! Keep working on your journey friend 💪 🎉 👏  
@catmancam thanks friend 🙏 Oh I do hope that you are able to see a dermatologist soon. I wouldn’t put this off. Hopefully they can figure out what it is and provide you something to give you relief.

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> The guilt and shame that led to these consequences are difficult to face, but I’m proud of myself for still trying

I am super proud of you Laine – for getting right back on track with your sobriety and working towards your dream. Guilt and shame have no room in recovery because they tend to keep us down and leave an opening for the addiction to seep back in. You are making changes in your life for the better and working on your sobriety. Wishing you luck with getting into the program 🤞 ODAAT 💪  
@lisa-b I love everything about this post! Again – great work on 50 days and experiencing such marvels in sobriety. Keep it going – it only gets better 💪  
@MrFantastik Way to go with 77 days Marty. Progress for sure - those pesky thoughts do creep in from time to time but how we handle them is what counts - stronger today for having said No. Thank you friend - still working on it. Was able to get loads of rest so that is always good.

Checking in on Friday evening  
422 days free of alcohol and weed  
837 days free of cigarettes  
Not much to report - watching comedy to keep my mood light and positive. This too shall pass. Grateful for another 24 hours of staying clear of my DOC’s.  
Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free day / evening! Sending you all so much love ❤ ❤

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