Checking in daily to maintain focus #79

[Chevy55]

So proud of my son!

Went out for dinner with wife and bro in law and his wife. My wife and his had a few too many drinks, bro in law only a couple, I was DD.

Ran into our son and his girlfriend down at waterfront where they were out for dinner as well. No drinking, just a lovely night out for them with a nice dinner on the waterfront…my wife and I raised a good young man, and I love the direction many young people seem to be taking these days in their relationship with drugs and alcohol…

Hope you are all doing well. Sobriety really is the best way

[Christophe]

Good evening,

I am seriously concerned for you, my American friends, when I read the news about you. I am even reluctant to write on this forum because I do not understand your society and the powerful and violent antagonisms that exist within it. On my side of the Atlantic, in Belgium, there are of course a few problems, like everywhere else.

It´s difficult to understand the world because it´s so diverse, complex, and interactive. It´s clear that an easy solution is to say, “OK, I’m closing the door, I’m not interested.” Let’s live happily, let’s live hidden away, right?

I know and I will respect the TS community charter to stay within the themes related to abstinence, but I can’t help seeing a link between the escape of drugs and the difficulty of accepting the injustices, violence, and unhappiness created by people who expend their energy through frustration, suffering, and revenge.

I needed to express my distance from all this, and at the same time write to you, and I repeat, that I have never seen any malicious comments, judgments, or sarcasm here. It’s extraordinary to be part of the Talking Sober Community.

It takes time to get to know each other, but respect and tolerance are very powerful here, and they are two of the most powerful pillars that maintain relationships.

And sorry for this unusual message, even though it’s a personal reflection on my life, my feelings, and my sentiments for you. It seemed right to write it just once, to feel free to express another step in my commitment.

Have a good evening, everyone!

[Christophe]

@Butterflymoonwoman

I said bcuz I felt like I was drinking too much back then and wanted to quit.

I’m impressed. It’s beautiful. Thank you for staying with us and setting an example. You are an amazing woman.

[JazzyS]

Lovely to see you friend. What a beautiful family! Glad to see you doing well.

@Chevy55

Sobriety really is the best way

HECK YEAH IT IS

[Butterflymoonwoman]

Awe thank u friend for the compliment. I dont get the opportunity very often in real life to talk about why I dont drink, so i guess I was slightly surprised that i said that lol But it felt good!

[CR84]

That’s awesome! You should be proud. As far as the coworker, I’m sure you know to trust your intuition. 3.5 year and counting

[CR84]

Thank you for this. I have definitely seen changes in the community. Some that get in to “no point” thinking in my opinion. We’re watching everything we learned was illegal in school has more holes than Swiss cheese. I have been taking the “I better be on top of my game in case I need a clear head when something seemingly inevitable happens. Unfortunately our minority is louder (richer) than the majority. Light and love across the pond friend.

[Dilettante]

Checking in on day 782. Congratulations on all the amazing milestones, personal victories or achievements and for those who have dusted themselves off after a slip and come back to hang out with the most awesome group of people ever. We are stronger together

[CR84]

Evening check in. I made it to all 3 meetings and even shared in the 3rd (and favorite) I was talking about my best friend (on hiatus due to her addictions) and her daughter that moved in with me. I actually broke down a bit. I didn’t think I had that much to say lol Definitely helps to let it out. We were talking about suffering and all I thought about was my old bestie that I miss so dearly. We were friends from 6th grade and by far my ride or die. I know she is in there somewhere and it hurts. Her daughter should have been able to call her but she can’t. I absolutely love having her here, she’s my daughter too lol I just wish her mom would see how beautiful she is and how much like us she is. Just smarter lol I dunno weighing a lot on me but in a keep frickin sober Cass kinda way. None of my daughter’s blood or not have been through enough. Light and love all. Hope you all have an amazing night/day

[Leveller]

@CR84 Hey, 3 meetings! Thats determination Cass. Absolutely brilliant. Your friends daughter will be forever grateful to you one day. Its fantastic what you are doing. We need to let things out otherwise it really messes with us. You are a .

[Leveller]

Beautiful photograph, lovely family. Well done, I look at my son and say to my wife ‘well we got that right’ its so pleasing to see them heading in the right direction.

[Tragicfarinelli]

627. Just checking in. Crushing the sober life

[Leveller]

Hey I hope your co worker is just trying to fit into a new environment and dosnt end up being too creepy for you to work with.
I love this "bcuz I felt like I was drinking too much back then and wanted to quit.’
Its simple, its honest and its a closed reply.
Nice one Dana.

[Leveller]

@Tragicfarinelli you certainly are

[Leveller]

Good morning everyone from a very wet North Yorkshire. My first day back at work today and its fair to say Im not entirely performing somersaults.
This first day is always the same, its good to have a clear head though.
Two weeks in and feeling so much better than I was while hitting it everyday. Im thinking of getting home now and not going straight to the pub.
Wishing you all well today.

[Lucalds]

Good morning everyone!

DAY 18

I slept pretty well last night and woke up earlier than usual. I believe that my circadian system is normalizing itself as the days go by. I’m reminding myself that the first 120 days are the most challenging, so I am ready to be gentle and understanding with myself during this initial phase.

Last night, people were calling me to go out quite late, but my phone had been on sleep mode since 10 p.m. I know my cousin, especially, might take this very personally. He has an opinion of me that doesn’t reflect who I am today. For the past couple of years, I haven’t been the person I used to be, and he is struggling to accept this. He wants me to go back to my old self, so he doesn’t lose his “company,” so to speak.

But I can’t. This time, I am just going to ignore the messages. One day, maybe, if needed, we will talk. He also has an 11-year-old son, and he should concentrate on him rather than on taking me out for drinks. But I am also not here to fix anyone’s life but my own.

Today I am grateful for:

1. Another beautiful Monday (I was born on a Monday and I love a fresh start to the week).

2. Having a safe space where I can recover and take care of myself.

3. Having the opportunity to save the money I used to spend on drinking.

Have a beautiful 24 hours sober!

[Lucalds]

Great job and yes go back home to cook yourself a deliscious meal! I am at day 18. Cooking has become a beautifu part of teh day where not only I can be creative but also taking good care of myself. Treat yourself for the good job you are doing for yourself.

[Mno]

2291

My holidays just started. I survived the working weekend without getting sick from Norovirus (so far). Hope it stays that way. Got a trip planned for tomorrow, I’m a bit anxious over that as the weather predictions predict lots of wind and my travels include two sea crossings. Well. Let’s call it an adventure and stuff will work out. Will make today as good as I possibly can. Sober and clean. Love from my town.

[Leveller]

Enjoy a well earned break friend. Hoping the Novo stays away. Great photo.

[Just_Laura]

@JazzyS It’s the same here I see new roadkills everyday (I’ve almost hit a couple). When I said ‘season’, I meant like deer. All the babies born in spring are on their own now and kinda dumb. Survival of the stinkiest!

@Von100

Waiting for it’s moment to pull me down.

Yes, a moment of weakness. You’ve become stronger than it now, but never let your guard down. Not even for a second. That’s all it takes. Amazing progress btw Proud of you

@Ray_M_C_Laren The always ever inspiring Congratulations! Thank you for sharing and spreading such hope

942?

Experienced a new level of exhaustion today Totally regretted hosting that sleepover. They stayed up past 3am and I couldn’t fall asleep for a while after. Very difficult morning. Didn’t want to tell my mom I wasn’t up for the drive, but she understood. Made me feel shitty tho bc I can’t make it tomorrow either (unusual midday shift). I always say not to travel to the fantasy land of ‘What If’, but this uncharted territory led me there today. Not knowing what’s going on and assuming the worst. I layed around all afternoon stewing. Then felt like I needed to get moving and scrubbed the shower! My absolute least favorite chore (Nothing cleans a house quite like anxiety ) I also desperately needed to go shopping bc we’d run out of alot. Not for lack of money, but time. After dinner I forced myself to keep moving bc if I sat down I’d be done, while the evergrowing shit pile stands tall Finally talked to my brother. Any anger towards him was gone and we planned the next couple days. He’s taking her tomorrow and all of us Tuesday bc he happens to have an appt in the building next door, so it works out. I called my mom to let her know and for any updates. I guess he’s doing alot better! He also got a new roommate who served with him in Vietnam! What are the odds?! Glad he’s got company bc that place is fucking depressing. And once I got off the phone, that feeling lifted and I felt so much better. Like, physical pain vanished instantly Proving yet again nothing ever turns out as bad as I imagine. The mind really makes you suffer if you let it. Gotta keep myself in the present. Odaat