# Checking in daily to maintain focus #81
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Created:** [November 9, 2025, 1:49am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626 "2025-11-09T01:49:05Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 121
### Author:  [@TrustyBird](https://talkingsober.com/u/TrustyBird)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 12:59am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2527 "2025-12-15T00:59:54Z")
All due respect, and I am only saying that because that is what people say. Fuck that guy. I know he’s your husband but he just sounds mean.
You deserve for people to speak kindly to and about you.
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### Author:  [@BriCrowe](https://talkingsober.com/u/BriCrowe)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 1:42am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2528 "2025-12-15T01:42:32Z")
Where’s the art thread? I’d love to post some of it. Like, this is my favorite piece so far despite its size.
I appreciate your kind words. Needed that today.
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### Author:  [@NewEnglander1970](https://talkingsober.com/u/NewEnglander1970)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 2:16am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2529 "2025-12-15T02:16:48Z")
Okay… here we go. I texted a long time ex GF to see if she played chess. She said yes, but was not very good. Perfect … I am just learning. I suggested an app where we could play each other for free. C\*\*\*\*. Com
She says it sounds complicated.
Me ( knowing she has worked her ass off to become a Registered Nurse long since we spit) said it’s not that complicated, glad you’re not my nurse. I was completely joking.
Apparently I was condescending and over boundaries. WTF ???
In my mind it was validating her furthering her education and merit. Needless to say we aren’t playing Chess. I hate walking on eggshells in life. How can I always be at fault ??? Sucks
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### Author:  [@JasonFisher](https://talkingsober.com/u/JasonFisher)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 2:24am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2530 "2025-12-15T02:24:50Z")
9 Years! 💪Congrats!
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### Author:  [@tailee17](https://talkingsober.com/u/tailee17)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 2:28am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2531 "2025-12-15T02:28:25Z")
I’m smiling . Yes Fuck him for being so mean. As I have said I wish there were relationship police and could intervene. Coming here to share really helps me to avoid the pity party. It is just an event that I expound too much energy on. As my sober days grow I am sure soon I can shrug his piss poor behavior off.
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### Author:  [@StacyAnn](https://talkingsober.com/u/StacyAnn)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 2:32am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2532 "2025-12-15T02:32:27Z")
Definitely take some time for you, it is so important. Also feel ya on the cold and snow lol
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### Author:  [@StacyAnn](https://talkingsober.com/u/StacyAnn)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 2:34am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2533 "2025-12-15T02:34:35Z")
Yeah dude… depending on your dynamics, definitely probably not the right words to use, just my opinion. Nurses are a different breed and what they go through to get there….. yeah that comment would probably rub a few the wrong way.
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### Author:  [@Kareness](https://talkingsober.com/u/Kareness)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 3:57am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2534 "2025-12-15T03:57:52Z")
Thank you @Lisa07 , I appreciate you on this forum also and it’s valuable knowing another special needs mom!
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### Author:  [@Christophe](https://talkingsober.com/u/Christophe)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 4:00am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2535 "2025-12-15T04:00:22Z")
> [@mxelle](#):
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> Also, what is receiving support for you? How can we help?
Hi Melanie
I understand your point about being honest with yourself, and looking back, I admit that I didn’t need to apologize to the community. It was just an emotional reaction.
Asking for help is an integral part of the process, and that’s what I did at the time, with complete clarity.
As for support, I think everyone here contributes what they can, based on their own frame of reference, experience, and sensitivity.
We don’t all have to listen or support others in the same way. It’s also up to each person to discern what they are able to offer and what belongs to them.
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### Author:  [@Just\_Laura](https://talkingsober.com/u/Just_Laura)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 4:05am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2536 "2025-12-15T04:05:48Z")
1033
Checking in all good 👍
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### Author:  [@Kareness](https://talkingsober.com/u/Kareness)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 4:06am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2537 "2025-12-15T04:06:59Z")
Thank you @Butterflymoonwoman @JazzyS @Mno @BookDragon @tailee17 @CR84 @Dilettante @JasonFisher ! I appreciate it!
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### Author:  [@Christophe](https://talkingsober.com/u/Christophe)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 5:00am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2538 "2025-12-15T05:00:40Z")
DAY 1
A craving always forces me to face up to my responsibility. The choice is simple: drink or don’t drink.
I’m convinced that abstinence has become vital for me. Alcohol feeds psychological issues that I’m aware of and no longer want to deal with.
Quitting drinking isn’t a permanent transition to a “safe” state. It is a decision that must be renewed with courage and then maintained over time. Perseverance and vigilance are essential, because I know that I will remain vulnerable.
My triggers are often emotional. Today, I choose to deal with them consciously, without running away or dramatizing.
Have a good sober day, everyone! 👋
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### Author:  [@Mno](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mno)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 5:23am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2539 "2025-12-15T05:23:46Z")
2382
My working weekend was relatively quiet. Last night I was in bed before 9 and did sleep till my alarm just now. Needed it. Now another work day ahead. That’s OK. One day at a time. My mind, body and soul are OK too, even when meeting these folks from high school for dinner Saturday did bring up a lot of memories from my childhood and adolescence. Not all good, but not all bad either. Interesting times. Could never deal with it all if I was still drinking. I’m going to have as good a day as I possibly can and hope you will all do the same. Much love from Vondelpark.
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### Author:  [@Lucalds](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lucalds)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 6:32am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2540 "2025-12-15T06:32:12Z")
> [@JasonFisher](#):
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> I guess im still 100 addicted to adrenaline.
I bet this is a hard one for many of us …to find peace with peace. It’s not easy but doable, we just have to redefine the definition of excitement.
@Butterflymoonwoman great **1400**!!!
@Kareness Huge congratulations!!!
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### Author:  [@Lucalds](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lucalds)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 6:49am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2541 "2025-12-15T06:49:02Z")
Hello everyone!
**DAY 109** - Check-in
I keep waking up earlier than needed, but it’s not a problem.
As the year ends, I’m thinking about 2026 and don’t know what to do. The most challenging option is to stay as quiet as possible, prioritize sobriety to get as strong as I can, and delay “decisions” that might be too hazardous now.
I’m not in immediate need of anything particular, and if I can compromise with my ego during this phase, I’ll be fine. I just don’t want to jump into the “next thing” because my mind demands it. My intuition says otherwise.
Though harder to trust, I’ll quietly follow it. I’d rather push longer, believing life will guide me.
Today I’m grateful for:
- Meditation
- Resilience
- Protection
Wishing everyone 24 solid sober hours!
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### Author:  [@DanielaJ](https://talkingsober.com/u/DanielaJ)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 7:21am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2542 "2025-12-15T07:21:11Z")
Irony can be misunderstood very quickly, especially when you’re only writing and can’t hear or see facial expressions or tone of voice. Obviously, it wasn’t clear to her that it was a joke. To be honest, I only understood that you meant it as a joke because you explicitly explained it here.
I don’t think misunderstandings are about blame. They can always happen; they’re part of communication. A misunderstanding can be a door that opens the way to understanding each other better.
Do you think it might be a good step to tell her very clearly how much respect you have for her work as a nurse, just so she knows that for sure (because it seems she may not)? Would that feel okay for you?
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### Author:  [@DanielaJ](https://talkingsober.com/u/DanielaJ)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 7:23am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2543 "2025-12-15T07:23:08Z")
Beautiful! 🤩
> [@Show the artist within you (Part 2)](https://talkingsober.com/t/show-the-artist-within-you-part-2/122879):
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> Continuing the discussion from [Show the artist within you (Part 1) - #2710 by Matt](https://talkingsober.com/t/show-the-artist-within-you-part-1/41975/2710). Previous discussions: [Show the artist within you (Part 1)](https://talkingsober.com/t/show-the-artist-within-you-part-1/41975)
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### Author:  [@DanielaJ](https://talkingsober.com/u/DanielaJ)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 7:32am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2544 "2025-12-15T07:32:17Z")
Day 58 smoke free, 37 binge eating free.
Changing my no sugar timer into a no snacking timer. I realized snacking is a bigger issue than sugar right now. ä
Today I will go to the post office to send a big christmas present to my dear friends, go to the gym and do some paperwork.
Have a peaceful day everyone, and watch out for these little enjoyments 💜
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### Author:  [@Tony1878](https://talkingsober.com/u/Tony1878)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 8:07am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2545 "2025-12-15T08:07:43Z")
Horrible and very saddening this Seb,my Sister was in the city and got a phone call off my nephew telling her to go home immediately,my nephew is a paramedic in the city and was just clocking off shift when they got the call 🙏
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### Author:  [@Seb](https://talkingsober.com/u/Seb)
#### Post date: [December 15, 2025, 8:40am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/2546 "2025-12-15T08:40:30Z")
Glad to hear your family members are ok.
Very disturbing times here
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