# Checking in daily to maintain focus #81
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Created:** [November 9, 2025, 1:49am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626 "2025-11-09T01:49:05Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 68
### Author:  [@Anonymous2022](https://talkingsober.com/u/Anonymous2022)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 5:29am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1414 "2025-11-30T05:29:25Z")
Day 2 sober from masturbation
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### Author:  [@MrFantastik](https://talkingsober.com/u/MrFantastik)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 6:42am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1415 "2025-11-30T06:42:41Z")
729
Picked up the wife from hospital, surgery went well, easy repair as it was so soon after she hurt it.
She’s been sleeping most of the day off and on. She’ll still be on crutches for 6weeks post op.
Went grocery shopping and then got home before the kids got dropped home. Just been chilling, cooking dinner and staying indoors on this rainy Sunday
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### Author:  [@Lucalds](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lucalds)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 7:02am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1416 "2025-11-30T07:02:36Z")
@Butterflymoonwoman I’m so happy for your son and you. I didn’t know what was going on with your kid, and never dared to ask. It took my breath away and I have no words, other than admiration, for your strength, resilience, and the care you so abundantly offer to everyone. I’m sure life has lots of good surprises in store for you moving forward.
@CR84 @Leveller Congratulations to both of you!
@Just_Laura Oh God …it can become a domino effect at a certain point. Stay strong, there is really nothing you can do at this point if not just taking care of the basics and letting life run its course.
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### Author:  [@poppyfairy](https://talkingsober.com/u/poppyfairy)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 7:03am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1417 "2025-11-30T07:03:01Z")
**29 months**
Im gonna tell you something you maybe didn’t hear today yet (but probably you did 😅). Ready? Ok, listen. Time flies! It fucking does. But don’t think about it too much cause if you’re like me, you would just get some mini anxiety attack and it’s not worth it. Just let it fly. And don’t look in the mirror! 😅 (joking).
But there is good news too. Time is actually not slowing down when it’s bad. It feels like that, but it’s not. So if you struggle, remind yourself that it too shall pass.
I’m still in bed, drinking my morning coffee. Kids are still sleeping. I love this quiet mornings, I really do 😌 Soon won’t be so quiet anymore. That would be disaster if I would be hungover. So happy my boys don’t know me drunk or hungover. I was such a wreck…
I’m 29 months sober and 29 months on TS. Coincidence? I don’t think so 😉
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### Author:  [@poppyfairy](https://talkingsober.com/u/poppyfairy)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 7:06am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1418 "2025-11-30T07:06:43Z")
Speedy recovery for your wife! Take good care of her and remember those crutches can be a dangerous weapon too 😉
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### Author:  [@Lucalds](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lucalds)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 7:21am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1419 "2025-11-30T07:21:54Z")
Hello everyone!
DAY 94 - Check-in
I tried a weird food combination last night, I think, and around midnight, I got stomach cramps that kept me up for a few hours. They finally vanished around 4 a.m. I still woke up at 7 because that’s my biological alarm, and I knew I wouldn’t sleep longer anyway. So I got up, made myself a coffee, came here on TS to check my messages as usual, and I’m planning to get on with the day as planned. I’m not tired, and I’m also not going to skip my morning walk by the sea.
I bought some handmade Genovese pesto yesterday, and I’m going to buy fresh gnocchi as well from the “fresh pasta shop” and cook it for lunch. Yesterday, I made seafood fettuccine that was quite delicious. I’m the cook of the house, and I love cooking. It has saved me many times in awkward situations, and it’s my way of thanking my family for the support I’m receiving at this point in my life.
My father is super engaged with his brother in outside activities, and it’s so good to see him happy again. After my mother passed away, he went into a very bad depression, and it’s actually a miracle that he managed to find a way out for himself. At 81, seeing him still so active with friends (only in the morning) is a relief, also because it stabilizes the mood at home, and I do my best to contribute with lunches.
Today I am grateful for:
• Coffee
• Physical activity
• The overall abundance around me (whatever abundance means for me)
Wishing everyone a solid 24 sober hours!
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### Author:  [@Christophe](https://talkingsober.com/u/Christophe)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 9:20am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1420 "2025-11-30T09:20:59Z")
Day 2 morning
Despite a restless night, listening to the neighbors arguing in the street like… 📣🐦🐮 , then quietly listening to the rain fall, I got up this morning as planned. Clear blue skies after the rain and fresh air: ideal for a jog, right? A beautiful serenity at the end of autumn.
First thing now: coffee.
Have a good day, everyone.👋
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### Author:  [@Bunto](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bunto)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 9:36am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1421 "2025-11-30T09:36:33Z")
First Sunday of Advent.
A time of quiet reflection… and apparently a time when I put a candle into my smoothie and call it “symbolism.”
But honestly, today hits differently. The first Advent candle is about hope, and I’m taking that seriously this year — not in a heavy, dramatic way, but in a “let’s try this again, but smarter” kind of way.
For me, this moment is a reminder that every new chapter starts with something small: a spark, a habit, a choice… or yes, even a candle balancing in a berry smoothie 😁
I’m using today as inspiration to start a new stage — healthier, calmer, and a little more intentional. And if I can manage that with this level of coordination, anything is possible.
Here’s to a fresh beginning, one flame (and one smoothie) at a time.
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### Author:  [@acromouse](https://talkingsober.com/u/acromouse)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 9:50am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1422 "2025-11-30T09:50:42Z")
739 sugar
603 UPF
First Sunday in the Advent season. Going to light the first candle, the time of dreaming, resting, and waiting for the sun to be reborn.
Time for my weekly review, and lots of chilling. Also waiting for my hormones to settle down after the recent rollercoaster ride.
Peace and love always 🪷
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### Author:  [@Tragicfarinelli](https://talkingsober.com/u/Tragicfarinelli)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 10:19am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1423 "2025-11-30T10:19:57Z")
Love this Mischa. You rock. 💕
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### Author:  [@SupermassiveDarkStar](https://talkingsober.com/u/SupermassiveDarkStar)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 10:45am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1424 "2025-11-30T10:45:42Z")
Honestly, Yeah this place is a pixelated tranquilizer for me, honestly. Even when some people feel down there’s a dozen others to lift them up again. It’s amazing what a community can do. I’d offer to give a hug if I was nearby, haha.
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### Author:  [@SupermassiveDarkStar](https://talkingsober.com/u/SupermassiveDarkStar)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 10:48am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1425 "2025-11-30T10:48:13Z")
Checking in from inside an mental health facility. I got myself admitted yesterday to have a safety net for the weekend because I felt very paranoid and unsafe in my own home. I’ll probably go home again on Monday or Tuesday. That thought scares me. I hope they can come up with a plan to give me a bit of perspective to work towards.
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### Author:  [@Ofmiceandroach](https://talkingsober.com/u/Ofmiceandroach)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 11:03am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1426 "2025-11-30T11:03:40Z")
4 months sober - most days I don’t look at this app unless I’m really struggling but I think I handled last night well considering my mum was enjoying a cold bottle of wine last night. Spent the entire night in my room with my long boy
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### Author:  [@Cjp](https://talkingsober.com/u/Cjp)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 11:04am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1427 "2025-11-30T11:04:23Z")
Im so sorry youre going thru it with your dads health struggles. Im glad you took a day for rest. Be kind to yourself. Nothing prepares us for our parents getting older
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### Author:  [@Jette](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jette)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 12:20pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1428 "2025-11-30T12:20:29Z")
Checking in 2391 days AF, 132 days THC free, 1758 days nictotine free, 47 days MO free, 3124 days free of meth and other illicit substances, 3224 days free of self harm, AND 302 days free of porn. I only share the ones that I’m truly working on right now. My Higher Power has set me free from alot of these that are up there in days. I don’t even think watching porn anymore. I thank my HP every day because I couldn’t have done it without Him.
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### Author:  [@Chevy55](https://talkingsober.com/u/Chevy55)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 12:48pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1429 "2025-11-30T12:48:58Z")
Checking in:
Son’s car was hit in a fender bender last night, of course I’m asleep (it was about 11pm) and I have notifications off as they buzz my watch. Luckily no one was hurt and wife was working in town so she could pick him and his girlfriend up to take back to her place.
Today we figure out what to do as he’ll be without a ride and living an hour outside town will make it hard for him to get to his girlfriend’s, but guess that’s the way it goes. Hopefully damage isn’t too long to fix.
Oy vey. But happy I’m not hung over trying to figure this out with him in his first bump in car.
Thankful for sobriety in this.
Have a good day folks.
Lotsa ❤☮😊
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### Author:  [@Nordique](https://talkingsober.com/u/Nordique)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 1:05pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1430 "2025-11-30T13:05:28Z")
Hey all, checking in on day 1995. I hope everybody has a good one!
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### Author:  [@Marit](https://talkingsober.com/u/Marit)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 1:30pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1431 "2025-11-30T13:30:15Z")
Checking in!
Went climbing, but unfortunately my back is problematic at the moment. Still found a solid 5C climb in me so happy with that! In more pain now but as I will always have back pain I refuse to let it stop me 😬😄
Calm Sunday. Looking forward to F1 in the evening. Feeling pretty content actually 🥰 also much happyer with the add meds then I thought beforehand. Now need to find a balance of not abusing it and just following my prescription. I can do that, this has never been a problem before, but I do feel it differently now I’m sober so I will be whatchfull.
Have a great Sunday everyone 🥰
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### Author:  [@Mbwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mbwoman)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 1:38pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1433 "2025-11-30T13:38:41Z")
Happy Sunday! Quoting myself here. Lol. I just added this to a less active thread but then thought to myself, “hey self, this might resonate with someone else.” And if no that’s fine. It is important for me, even as I approach five years of sobriety in early 2026.
> [@Running in Recovery in 2024-2025](https://talkingsober.com/t/running-in-recovery-in-2024-2025/176673/1651):
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> So, I joined 5 years ago. Sobriety date 3/5/21. Moderately active the first 3 years. Read tons. But, I’m just not the fastest phone typist. PC I’m on fire. Anyway….just moderate posting for that reason. But often at least one post a day, and lots of likes. That said…when I wasn’t around I was never mentioned on the You Are Missed thread. Not gonna lie….hurt my feelings. Not being accepted (in my mind), and few friends in my orbit has been a recurring theme in my life. It’s what got me in trouble with drinking as a teen. Today I don’t drink over it but still occasionally wonder “what’s wrong with me?” I have lists and lists of real or perceived rejections. Today I try to accept myself for who I am. And that is working (most days).
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### Author:  [@SK213](https://talkingsober.com/u/SK213)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2025, 1:57pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-81/201626/1434 "2025-11-30T13:57:15Z")
Day 11
You know what, not everyday will be the same and that’s okay. It’s Sunday! I’m allowed to be out of routine this morning because I’m being kind to everyone in my house by not making noise while they sleep 😂
I was in the living room, just starting a meeting when the kids woke up. I got to see their faces when they saw the elf set up. I left the meeting and just enjoyed the moment with them.
Now I’m relaxing, having a delicious cup of hot coffee. Looking at the ridiculous amount of snow that fell last night and still falling now. I’m not demoralized that I have to clean it today. I’m lucky enough to have a workout and fresh air later.
Today will be a home day, a little bit of cooking, some cleaning and a lot of relaxing! I’m going to do one meeting today, a little reading and some writing. If my wife feels like doing a YouTube video, I’ll happily be the camera man and do an edit. I’ve made a lot of progress this week, I’m going to reward myself with being present!
Enjoy the day everyone, make it what you want!
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