Thank you for your kindness.
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Do you know of any other links that can give me listening tips more
Or if i look deeper in this site will i find them?
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This is a link to a little more detailed explanation of what Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (mind reading is a cognitive distortion covered under this umbrella) entails and good tips!
I used the wrong function to blur last time, practice makes progress 
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Lmaooo i have no idea even how to just listen. I have never just sat and listend. I always have a running mind.
Im not saying im right for it. As a matter of fact im almost never correct when i assume
I just want to understand things so much i constantly assume reasons why
Im extremely a positive and happy and social and bright
I just havnt listened in a long time
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I totally understand and relate to wanting to understand why people say and do the things they say and do. Getting more information and facts is key to making informed decisions, so donāt hesitate to ask questions! Just be sure to listen to the answer to said questions. The more you know, the easier it is to respond without having to make assumptions!
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Day 1475
Everything was planned for us to go home. His prescription is ready but we were waiting for discharge papers. The nurse came in to check on him one last time and he spiked a fever. She gave him Tylenol and now hes sleeping. Im not sure if we will be allowed to go home now. Idk. Just waiting for the Drs now to see us.
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Ok thank you for this
I was a social disaster for my whole life up until i found AA and found sobriety
I g2 get home now
Take care
We got this
And today i will not pick up
And
I will work on my listening skills
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Late evening Check in
Back from AA Meeting, was a good time
Now iām tierd 
Hope you all have a good time today.
Now i have to eat something and Go to sleep soon.
3rd dry friday 
i am grateful for that
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Oh no. 
I hope you all get to go home. Hospital stays are no fun and I hope your child gets better real soon.
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Checking in!
Work wasnāt too good, Iām not too happy right now. And I donāt know how to solve the issues! 
After work I had an appointment at the hairdressers, I did a quite radical haircut, and Iām not too sure if I like itā¦ letās see how it looks once I have to get it done myself tomorrow morning! 
A friend whoās living on the mainland called me, we hadnāt spoken in a while, he congratulated me for my birthday, that was a nice surprise! He usually never remembers! 
We had a long chat over the phone!
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Loved my first day! Groups were awesome!!
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Day #37 Alcohol and Nicotine free.
Rains seemed to have gone away.
Its a beautiful sunny Saturday morning here.
Gym soon, then a kids birthday party in the afternoon. Not a very busy but a full filling day nonetheless.
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Day 0 Checking in
Reset my timer today. No excuses. Just tired. So so tired. I am trying to be everything to everyone but myself.
I go again tomorrow.
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Ive always timmed my relapses
New years day
Birthdays
And unfortunately disasters
Never worked
My true substance sobriety date is
9-12-24 this was my first full 24hours
My last substance i quit was on 9-11-24 which was pot
I quit hard drugs, alcohol, nicotine, nic replacement, then i smoked weed on 9-11-24 and it was disasterous and i thought why i would want to time the disaster. I wanted to time my journey
I relapsed a lot on all substance alot. I would time it. New years eve, last pick up i promise myself. New years day, last pickup i promise myself. My birthday, last pickup i promise myself. Im a addict, it was unfortunate beyond my own control.
ā¦ eventually i got to the point, ok its new years eve i need a good sober date, this wil work.. nope or my birthday or pot holiday would be a cool sobriety date, never happened
The date i hated for a long time was 9-12-24 because it represented my completly failed and long history with past relapses and using drugs and alcohol
Now
I want to protect my date
9-12-24 and i love it. Its one of my most important dates to me because it was the day i decided no more and it stuck
That day picked me
Edit
Day 0 i put it down and my first full day is my most important 24hour day in my whole list of days in all my timmers. 24hours, day1 is the most important day
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Hey all,
Just checking in. Happy itās Friday. Feeling a bit tired lately, but probably a bit of hormones and life. Getting ready for our big trip. Very excited for the kids. Going to be nice to get out this cold and get to the beach.
@Butterflymoonwoman thinking of you and sending love. Keep checking in with us 
I hope you are all able to get home soon, though glad that his fever spiked while you were still there and not after you got home. Sending big hugs xo.
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Today I have 2 years! And so does my friend and sober twin @tailee17
I was feeling positive all day and even went to work instead of taking off. A lot of people in my network and life did things for me to help celebrate. Some friends even got me balloons. I have this sadness that just came over me since I got back home. Itās hard to explain. Sometimes I still just feel like this little kid trying to figure out how to be like everyone else.
Im not going to let the devil ruin my night and I will try to think about all the positives in the last 2 years like maintaining employment, paying for my own things, working at hobbies I quit because of addiction, being useful to the people around me , and contributing to life.
A lot of my thoughts today have went to thinking about my first 2 months of sobriety which was in jail. It wasnāt easy. The first cell I went to after booking they were smoking fentanyl , weed and doing ecstasy. I was hiding under the blankets detoxing pretty bad and in complete shock. That was the scariest experience of my life and I thought my life was over and I made a promise to myself that if I got out that I would take my life seriously. I keep that promise to myself even when things were tough. But in all honesty its been pretty easy to stay sober because I know where the Percocets and vodka will take me! They will take me to medical detox, jail and sleeping being shopping centers. Im scared of my past and its almost like everyday is my first day sober.. everyday is like I just got out of jail..
I have so much love for this community and I want to say thank you for not giving up on me. Thank you for putting up with my hyperness and sometimes being maybe to honest..
I dont know what the future holds but Im just glad to be giving myself a shot at a decent life .. everyday that I wake up and decide to stay on the path.
Also thanks to everyone who reached out with congratulations and love. Thank you
PS: might make another post on my koolaid thread later tonight. I still feel like I have things to talk about from the 2 years but dont want to force write till its time.
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A bit late to reply but your kids might be old enough to try geocaching. Thereās a geocache app, its like a treasure hunt and you sign a log book. My kids love it and its such a good excuse for a walk
And Happy Birthday 
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@tailee17 & @bluekoolaid_88
Huge congratulations to you both on 2 years sober!! Both of your stories are not only inspiring to us all but also great examples of what sobriety can bring .
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My friend
Damnā¦ I cant even imagine inmates smoking fet while i sat there in my detox
Ive never met you beyond here but damn your story from beginning to end is uniquely yours. You did it and you never need to pick up a drink or drug again. I would give you money for your full story. Not only would i but id want to.
Sleeping in a park in the cold
Mad and hungover because someone stole 40$ from you
Thats hounestly priceless
Whatever you do
After you edit and everything
Dont throw away your notes or even your book
It will be hard and take a long time to write
The first time you write it will be the best version
Whatever you do, do not throw away a one and only copy especially if theres effort in it
Writting a story is art
The more you put in the better it will be, but be awear looking at a halfwritten book when your tired will be tough to fully see like a piece of art not finished
Write your full story
Never ever throw it away
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Checking in on day 948. Starting to feel somewhat human again and even managed a short walk with doggo today. Saw crocus and blossom on the trees when I was out, felt like I was coming out of hibernation with the plants after 2 weeks mostly housebound 
so grateful to be on the up and get out in nature again. Sending love and strength to all 
@poppyfairy happy birthday awesome soberista 
@tailee17 and @bluekoolaid_88 congratulations on two amazing years
@Butterflymoonwoman hoping you can go home with your son today and he is feeling better 
@Jules000 good to see you checking in! Iām glad you are home and your groups were good
Congratulations to anyone else celebrating milestones that Iāve missed, every sober day is a celebration
I see quite a few new names on the thread as wellā¦welcome to the community 
congratulation on your sober time and I hope to see you all checking in here, ODAAT 
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