I though recovery the first time was hard…
After a year long bender, I am struggling to stay away from the bottle. Even after a DUI, losing friend and almost losing my job, I still drank. I can remember the burn like it was yesterday.
I have so many worries about being clean, will anyone want to date me (since drinking is a big part of dating in my community), will I have friends? Will my family understand my disease? What will happen to me? All these questions I can’t seam to stop.
Any advice or peace you all have found would be a blessing. I am starting step one, how did you all start living this one?
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Recovery is very tough @axiomatic.om congrats to you being sober 1year .thats amazing . Take hour for our and day by day . Do whatever is needed .do not give in . I understand your toughts. About dating it will Come when you are ready for it . If you got good friends Who wants the best for you they will Come back. Or you can find new ones in Aa or other places im sure of it . Give it time , time will works for you if you do the right things . Do your family your most close one know about your struggle? Be open , tell them what you going through , best thing is to be honest . What you do you need to focus on your self because you comes first in a healthy, good matter . Im sure the rest will follow. For me how i stay sober and clean i work the steps free from shame, worked through my feelings that lead me to bad actions and it make me understand im a good guy Who has handle my life in the worst way . I use Aa, got a sponsor .gain my fam back. IT will be alright and if we do the right thing for our self . Give it all time and go by day by day. Today im happy sober and clean. Belive in your self , find your higher power. Find the big book . Love your self and forgive your self
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@axiomatic.om thank you for sharing your story. I would recommend looking at the posts under the category Advice and Questions. Also when I first began my journey, it was extremely helpful to me to watch YouTube videos on AA speakers.
Great job on recognizing there is a problem and wanting to start your journey to recovery.
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Thank you, your words are priceless.
Its how this works 
support. U help me too so thank u . Stay strong buddy !!
You can do this, please be strong. Im fighting this with you as well and it is something that burns deep in my soul. Im realizing all of that as well but if you find the right person they will love you and respect you for you and that is all you need to surround yourself with. People will understand and the ones that dont arnt worth your time or energy. I myself have lost so much, jobs, lover , home everything so i know how real the fight is. Please keep your head up and when you find yourself aching to go to the store maybe do something different and productive. stay busy it really does help… keep your head up …
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Thank you, best of luck to you as well.
At this moment focus on yourself and even ask if this is the same person you still want to be tomorrow. Don’t think of the outside world just think of yourself and what you can possibly do for you. You yourself can be your strength or weakness. It’s scary to think all of these things but don’t let fear creep in. Stay positive!
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Thanks for the great advice. I hated the idea of doing things for myself, since I felt it anyways has been a waste of time, but I drank for myself, gotten addicted myself. All this extra time, I picked up books I never finished before, actually cleaned my room and talked with family; it’s great! By the end of the day, I took it up with so many other things that I don’t have the time to get drunk.
… And that feels great.
Our days are too short to pass up being messed up
Willingness !!! You got this folks if not you/ i would not be there
Dear All,
I have ten days now! Thanks for all the support. This form means the world to me now.
Happy Holidays
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Dear all,
You are the first I heard. I relapsed and gotten into she legal issues. Any kind words/advise, I would appriciate. I am so sad about everything.
honestly reading down your post n then seeing the last one I laughed so hard so thank you for that but it only shows that this is a struggle and one we will have forever I’m sad to admit . Hay robin Williams relapsed after 20 years n then shot himself. So 15 days later isn’t that bad