If you feel that you have a bad relationship with alcohol that is really all that matters. Whether you are an alcoholic or just abused it. The problem remains the same.
If you drink to a black out state, when you drink, you probably have a problem with alcohol. If you struggle to go a day or two without alcohol, you have a problem. If you can’t stop at just one, probably have a problem.
Not all alcoholic get the shakes. Not all alcoholic are disfunctionally.
I wish you the best on your journey. I hope you never have another embarrassing night due to alcohol. Read around lots of good information. This is good thread, lots of good information What's YOUR plan?