Having a craving pretty bad tonight. Ugh. But staying away from it.
And you came here instead! You rock!! Keep it up and over time the damn cravings will lessen. They really will.
How are you? What are your doing to help get over it? Iâm here for youâĽď¸
Best to stay busy if you can, make a smoothie, Listen to music, do some journaling, make a pros and cons list, call a friend or loved one. And keep reaching out on here ⌠You got this!
Keep checking in. I go to the checkin thread when I have cravings:
Checking in daily to maintain focus #40
It helps to share about it. I also get a chance to encourage other people there too. It feels good
Take care and remember to âplay the tapeâ through to the end. You know how it ends with your drinking / using. Itâs always the same. You have the power to let it pass by, you have the power to take your attention and find somewhere different to focus (for example, here on TS). In time it will pass.
You are worthy. You are strong. You are a good person. You deserve to feel good about yourself. You do.
Good job! I always told myself, âsaying no to this craving wont kill me, giving in to it eventually willâ
I just went through my notes on how horrible I feel after. Worked another day sober. Tonight is technically my Friday from work. Usually Iâd be getting super drunk tonight but I passed the liquor store and made it home! I got this
You totally do!!!
I cringe when I hear this. What I have got is a progressive, incurable fatal disease. And a daily reprieve from it based on the maintenance of my spiritual condition.
I need help and guidance from others and from the Source. On my own devices, the best I can do is white knuckle dryness for a few days at best.
Sorry I donât really understand why you cringe when you hear that. I think itâs empowering. When I say it to myself I feel strong and I know I can get through whatever Iâm facing. Of course we need support and guidance, but we also need to know the power we have deep inside.
A win, a precarious situation that i can turn to my favor certainly does bring me relief and happiness. And I do make a decision each morning to not drink and I follow that with positive action to grow my sobriety. As each sober day builds upon all the days before it, my confidence in my ability to make that decision and take that action is reinforced.
Itâs an odd balance for me to strike, on the one hand pride and confidence in my ability to keep sober, on the other to maintain humility. For me, the expression âYou (I) got thisâ goes too far in the direction of pride of self. Iâve been sober a long time, but my first 3 years of sobriety were under the control of the Department of Corrections. And for 18 years before that, I bounced in and out of sobriety, often thinking âI got thisâ in relation to making the puzzle work out so I could get as loaded as possible and not have any consequences. I was dead wrong about that.
I hear âYou (I) got thisâ as a platitude spoken by someone who does not truly understand the situation, nor my ability or lack thereof to rise to it. Thatâs what I hear, and it may not be what they were saying. Maybe they were saying âI believe in myself and my abilityâ or âI see the problem differently now and itâs not so hugeâ.
Iâm very happy that the OP got through the craving and could count another sober day. Any day an alcoholic doesnât drink is a gift. And a day with a struggle won can be called a miracle by some, including me.
I hope this explains my initial reaction to the comment. Iâm trying to help and offer my experience, and I can be kind of crusty doing that sometimes. Itâs good to get a chance to explain my tortured logic!
I understand your explanation in how it relates to you, but I just think that saying âI got thisâ can have so many deeper meanings, so if we hear what we need to hear from it in that moment I think itâs a great thing to say. I do understand your feelings on it too though. It really depends on how you interpret what that saying really means to you. Thanks for the replyđ