this is usually when I break down and give in. Day 2 about 4-5pm. Really trying to keep busy!
I know the feeling. Itās a hard spot and kinda scary
This is where (for me anyway) emotional self awareness really helps. Usually my āaddict brainā talks ārelapseā language when thereās something Iām feeling, some need Iām not addressing. I do a feelings inventory, then follow it with a needs inventory (I am feeling ____, which signals I need ____). Then I take action to address the need. Itās amazing how it helps defuse my addict brain.
Take care & be kind to yourself love. Youāre a good person, and you deserve a safe, sober life where you can be your full self
The feelings can sound kinda silly, like āIām feeling unappreciatedā or āIām boredā or something - we sorta think, oh, toughen up! But theyāre legitimate, honest, human needs. Itās ok to need things, itās ok to need space or people or help. Itās ok to not be ok.
I always thought I was doing something āexperimentalā and āstress relievingā when I cracked open a beer. It s wasnt.
What Ive experienced with sober evenings is that every one is an adventure. A real adventure into my mind. A chance to actually be somebody. The feeling of freedom outweighs the fuzz of alcohol and its not a close race.
What do you have planned bud? Can you call anyone? Doesnt have to be an emergency call for helpā¦just a friendly helloā¦
Find a way to treat yourself, a favorite non-alcoholic beverage, a long walk or a bath. Stock up the fridge with non-alco drinks. Chew gum or get hard candies to suck on. Seriously, I had an oral fixation along with the drinking and it helped! Good luck, and you can do it!!
Donāt do it @MommaHope. You came here for a reason; you want a better lifeā¦ The urge will pass, you just have to break that habit.
Remember the hangovers!.. cāmon girl, push through!
Thanks for writing- definitely empathize with you. It used to be the exact same time of day for me.
Stay strong! I was in the same exact spot tonight, Day 2 also! I decided to go for a run! It was beautiful out! A 4 mile run, then nice big drink of water, and I was done thinking about it! You can do it! The other bonus? Burning around 600 calories, and not drinking around 800ā¦ thatās another positive!
Best wishes to you!
Day 1, went for a 3.5 km walk tonight instead of drinking a beer. Sipping on an ice cold sparkling water with a slice of lemonā¦ It was difficult to actually get motivation but felt great once I got out there!
I did better than I thought I would. Did ALOT of laundry and watched a good movie. Actually fell asleep by 10pm instead if 2AM. Thanks for the advice and support!
thank you everyone for all the tips and support. I made it through and got all my laundry caught up. Another day down and now to make it through this one.
Good job on making it through another day. Iām new to posting and new to being sober but I am loving not waking up with a hangover. I love having energy and motivation. That first drink is the best feeling sometimes but it quickly turns to the worst outcome. Just remind yourself of that.
Exactly! I love being able to get up early and cook breakfast with my kids.
Well done! Now you have done it you know that you can.
The more you do it the stronger you will get.
Itās like a soldier who strips a rifle down and rebuilds it until they can do it in their sleep.
Itās muscle memory. At the moment your brain is trained to drink.
Now you are training it not to. Takes time, but the more you do it the stronger you will get.
Good for you! One day at a time, one load of laundry at a time.
Feel good about it. You made it past the hurdle. You are stronger than your āaddict brainā. She does not control you. You see her for what she is: a tricky liar. Youāre living your true life, where youāre there for yourself, present for yourself through ups and downs.
Youāre a good person who deserves a safe, sober life. Take care love and never, ever give up on yourself, no matter what
Hilarious! This goes into my wisdom slogans collection!
Awesome! Weāre all here to get clean, right?
Hows it going?
3-4 is my breaking point usually, right after I get home from work, group meetings at 5pm a few days a week really help with that for me.