Want to stop drinking because I know I don’t drink the way others do. I always have to be the drunkest one at any occassion and have bad self control. If my social anxiety is bad at a social event I’ll drink until I get drunk. If I hate myself I’ll drink until I get drunk. I don’t think there’s a version of me where I drink in a healthy way.
I knew I wouldn’t take staying sober seriously unless I did a daily check in. So here’s day one of being sober!
If anyone has tips on sobriety whilst at university where most events events inolve drinking, it would really help.
A big warm welcome to you friend. The way you describe your drinking is very relatable to me, and many others here im sure.
I only have 21 days of sobriety so im no expert, but you can search for thread topics in the homepage im sure there is one about tips for university students. You might ask a college counselor or health department for sobriety resources, there might even be a campus AA group or a young persons AA group in your city.
One thing I can say is dont wait to start your sobriety journey, one day at a time. Just dont drink today. I would give a lot to go back to my college years and quit drinking then. Ive been to a few “drinking-focused” events sober now and my advice is: bring non alcoholic drinks for yourself, most people wont even notice you arent drinking. Be accountable to a friend at that party and let them know you are trying not to drink tonight, if theres someone you can trust to have your back. Have an exit strategy. Drive yourself or have the bus route planned out so you can leave if the cravings become too much.
There is a “checking in daily” thread as well, you can always post there, or post if you are struggling and someone will respond with support and encouragement. You arent alone in this fight for your life 🩵
Welcome. In college, I was that person, always taking pride in being the drunkest because I didn’t like myself. I wish I could tell you I sobered up in college, but I wasn’t that smart, so I squandered decades before I came to the realization that I am incapable of only having a few drinks. You don’t have to do that.
My advice is to check in on TS regularly (there’s a lot of experience and wisdom here) and to find a friend or two who doesn’t drink. Maybe find a club whose activities don’t center around drinking (archery, for example) or go to an AA meeting on campus. Almost every university has a meeting on, or close to, campus.
Take care. Check in as often as you need to. TS is a terrific support network.
