Well, here l am at Station 13! It feels good to be back after a year of being away.
The place feels and looks a little different though,and lâm having a much harder time of it emotionally!
The last time l did Day 13 it was just before Xmas 2021 and l was in rehab.
Yes,l was away from my family, but at least l was in a safe place,being medically,physically and emotionally supported by a wonderful bunch of people who understood addiction (most of the staff were recovered addicts).
As l was totally cut off from the outside world,
I was able to be totally selfish and just make it all about me and my recovery.
I went to AA/NA meetings online,l went on outings, and did meditation,PT and yoga. I participated in workshops and art classes.l had counselling and psychotherapy sessions.
I thought it was a negative at the time,but now l understand! It was so l could really focus on one thing-to be sober and learn ways to stay that way.
This attempt at sobriety is being done at home without the crutch of Benzos at my beck and call,surrounded by real life issues,and people that understand addiction only from the victimâs perspective.
As it is the summer holiday season, we have a full house (family of 5). And having 3 teenage daughters, the place is raging with hormones and bubbling over with emotions!
To make matters worse,Covid moved in uninvited over Xmas,so we were all in iso in my very early days of being sober.
At Day 13,the physical symptoms of withdrawal have well and truly subsided,and it is a relief! But l am still very fragile emotionally and feel everything really acutely. There is nothing to shield me, no salve to wash over me and numb me,when things get hard.
I have felt the full brunt of my husbandâs anger over the things l have done to our family during active addiction. Itâs like he couldnât wait any longer to let me have it; to really let me know how he feels now that lm not MIA.
The thing is, lâm not strong enough yet to deal with these strong emotions and lâm afraid that l am at high risk of relapse if this constant hostility continues.
I have tried to express this to my husband but his answer is âOf course, l canât upset Andy, itâs all about Andy!â
I have tried to reassure him that it will not always be this way, and that l know l will have to start making amends to my family. But l canât do this if l relapse.
Has anyone out there had a similar experience, and how did you deal with it without slipping or relapsing?
If anyone can offer any advice l would be really grateful?