Welcome Gabe.
Sounds like you got a great wife there. That’s something to be truly grateful for.
I don’t usually like to give advice but share through my experience strength and hope. But………the 2 of you could surround yourselves with recovery if you were both willing. It’s a family disease.
I go to Al-Anon because my wife is an active alcoholic and I go to AA because I am a recovering alcoholic. I’m just fantasizing about how much the 2 of you could learn about this disease together and separately and how beautiful a thing it could turn out to be. And you could support each other.
Anyway. I’m don’t with advice.
Have a good read around
Join in when you’re comfortable
