You big chunky lump of hunky you, Don’t walk into SAA you’ll do more harm than good. 
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At the end of the day addiction is the same, it’s a brain disorder
Webster definition- the fact or conditions of being dependent to a particular substance, thing or activity.,
In essence you can be addicted to anything, it’s just dependent on what anything is usually chasing an effect that releases dopamine and gives you the feel goods.
I don’t know what your DOC is/was. But I’ve landed here because of the booze. Mind you that was my Achilles but I dabbled in a bit of everything. But for some it’s the idea of seeing certain parts of the body exposed, or seeing a substance, etc.
Like I did a Narcan IM training for my friends outreach group, and most of them are recovering addicts. As soon as they saw the needle. It was getting some of them itching.
Likewise if I put a thread up and the first pic is me slamming back a 40 it might bother someone
For some here it’s sex, drugs, self harm, food, even screen time/you tube etc.,
Naturally we have the food thread but binge eaters probably know it’s not a good idea, to enter said thread., cause it says right on it, Foodies.,
Almost all meetups via zoom I go to they ask to keep a shirt on, just out of respect, kinda like no shirt no shoes no service,
I’m almost in a year for recovery and I learned a lot about addiction, myself and my behaviors how the brain works and how recovery is supposed to work, but I also learned in recent weeks I’m probably a sex addict too.
For me addiction was always a thing, it started when I was a kid with baseball cards, then shifted to whatever, I have solid traits of an addict, we become work aholics, which I do all the time, I’m doing it now, over consume in many activities, we act without consequence, another guilty trait of mine,
So what is a trigger is subjective, I said earlier I discovered I’m probably a sex addict as well as my other addictions, but for me it’s different, pictures and porn compulsive masturbation doesn’t do it, for me. It’s all about physical intimacy with a female. And it is a self destructive behavior. I fell into this trap of women find me physically attractive, and I always wanted a wife and a family, I’m incredibly loyal in relationships, yet when I’m single I’m like a dart without feathers, in reality it’s a sickness. I had a vasectomy done so I can have sex without pregnancy consequences yet I regret it. While I can’t speak for everyone, Everyone has their respective boundaries and vices, and TS set restrictions regarding these boundaries
Mainly because we had a few “brosephs” throwing up flex in the mirror selfies, like a mating call.
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Thanks for the informative write up mate, appreciate it. Makes a lot of sense
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Mike is not an evil person. He has been away for over a month and in his defense I am pretty sure it was just no nipples when he left so… lets not go overboard.
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I hear you. I was not pointing you to community guidelines but to a thread that has sex addicts talking about their addictions and triggers. Since you said you’re interested, I wanted to provide informative content that you can read.
Sex addiction is a behavioural addiction. When that includes porn addiction, we’re talking about images as fuelling factor. I do not blame others for my addiction even when they post naked pics here. I blame them for inflicting pain on me in place that should be SAFE also for me to recover. Posting a naked pic here is to me something similar as if someone would literally force alcohol down an alcoholic’s throat.
Great response, cheers.
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I do not know him. Looking at his attitude, opinions and actions around this topic tells me he is not a safe person for me to be around. I have explained things to him before, this is not the first rodeo. If you’re new and you don’t know and post naked, I hope you learn. If you’re a regular, know the rules, can name a few pmo’ers and STILL post… Well… I do not take it lightly.
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Sorry but a male missing a couple of straps compared to females showing cleavage is incomparable. I get topless is topless though and agree with the rules…still I don’t bother too much with sober selfies cos it’s mostly female cleavage shots that have edited their pictures to make their faces look like innocent fairies, and I just like to see the real people I read a lot about doing good,…to be honest it should be covering shoulders for Every Body… when I’ve been in Spain with my dad ,to go in the shopping centres it’s ‘respectful’ to wear clothes (as an adult) that covers shoulders. So it’s been a good thing that this has all come up…I vote for covering shoulders 
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Shoulders covered then. End of.
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Totes agree with double standards…if a shirt is required then that goes for EVERY BODY.
Might go an flag some cleavage for fun 
…sorry just getting ‘shirty’!!! Lol.
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Kid pictures are another reason for great replies but I won’t post those anymore due to one member
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Cleavage and topless are not exactly same. Ladies tend to have a top on altho it can be skimpy. Topless has nothing on. Similar topics but not the same. When I joined, men were allowed to post topless but women weren’t. Such pics would have been flagged as sexually explicit and rightly so. Then the ban was extended to include everyone. I think THAT is fair.
Moreover, why do you go pointing fingers at others (women and their cleavage) when the discussion here is about one individual’s topless pic? Sounds like blame shifting.
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Jeeeeez.this go in circles for ever!!. It’s all too obvious. Shirts on for Every BODY…that means all 58 gender types of BODY.
No darling no blaming involved…just my opinion.everybody is entitled to an opinion,just a perspective…you have a point though…the only difference is nipples 
What about girls tops of the boob tube variety?..if you can’t see the top then that looks topless… honestly could go round and round and round.
Jesus Fucking Christ.
Team Anti-cleavage. Just stop. If you have problem with a picture then flag it. Right now you are playing a big game of whataboutism and it makes you dumb. He didn’t have a shirt on. The picture was rightfully flagged. You can either move on or join Geo in storming off like a baby.
Team Mike is trying to ruin my sobriety. Just stop. The dude has like 6 days sober after a nasty relapse. He made a mistake. Cut him some slack. He’s not out to intentionally attack your sobriety. That’s just your ego talking. And to the people who called him evil. That’s real fucking classy. It’s also hypocritical. If you were so concerned about having people respect your sobriety you should probably start respecting others.
Now y’all can get back to beating the dead horse.
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Amen. 
Hi 
I’m Conor I come to this forum to help my sobriety and to support others if I can that’s what everyone SHOULD be here for
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I just checked a few of my selfie likes, plenty of likes from woman…am I missing something in regards to this argument ? I like nearly every selfie as I like seeing the confident happy faces of people doing well.
P.S. An argument thread has its merits 
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