True, but I think you are being too abstract in your thinking and planning here.
My suggestion is:
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recognize that the so-called “sex impulse” is an impulse no different from the “eat a slice of bread” impulse: it is optional; always, always optional (as long as you believe there is something inevitable or fundamental about the so-called “sex impulse”, you are chaining yourself to a harmful mode of thinking) - there is never any reason you will die or suffer by not doing the behaviour (any more than you would by not doing the behaviour of eating a slice of bread)
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at first this recognition
will be intellectual only; in time if you work to develop your understanding and acceptance, it will internalize and will become second nature to you -
avoid interactions with women that are not required because of a professional or legal obligation (do not join the dance classes): you need to get much more stable and grounded in yourself personally before you can interact with women in a way that is respectful and safe; you’re not there yet and you’re a long way off
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you do need a community: in my case I joined a sex addiction recovery group run by therapists trained in Patrick Carnes’s approaches to sex addiction recovery (I didn’t search for him specifically, I just searched “sex addiction help in [my city]” and joined the groups, and they were doing those books); another way to do it is to join a sex addiction recovery program that is demonstrated by the successful, sustainable, safe sobriety of the people who work its program effectively and responsibly (Neal has a good list of these here: Resources for our recovery - #64 by NealRecoveryCA) (be conscious when reviewing these programs that there are unfortunately some voices you will hear that have no experience with working these programs in a responsible way, and these voices will give you their opinions about the programs; you’ll have to remember to look into it yourself and not make your decisions merely on second- or third-hand information from people who have no firsthand experience with successful use of the programs)
Do not give up. This journey takes resolve and you have to be willing to let go of a lot of your basic assumptions. Take it one day at a time and take advice from people who have direct personal experience with battling their own personal sex addiction. There is a great deal of wisdom and success in the community of people in sex addiction recovery.