It been a few days since you posted this. How are you doing? I know that this next few weeks will not be easy for you.
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Thank you for asking! I’m doing as good as can be expected. We will be telling the kids over Thanksgiving break so that we are all together for a few days to process. I go back and forth on being sad and wanting it all to be done with. I haven’t wanted to drink so at least my sobriety seems to be good for now.
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It is never an easy decision to make but in the end usually turns out to be the best decision. Good job stay away from the bottle. It definitely won’t make anything better. Keep it simple and pick up your tools when needed. Wish you the best!
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It’s opening weekend of deer gun hunting season. A year ago my oldest son got suspended from school for starting a fire in the bathroom. My husband was getting ready to go hunting at his buddy’s and was mad at me for wanting him to stay home. He wanted me to “handle” it by myself. This was a big deal and I wasn’t sure how to handle it but my husband didn’t see it as a big deal. I eventually told him to go. This is when I really started thinking that I needed to become sober and that my husband wasn’t really a partner. It is bringing up a lot of emotions for me but I am trying to let it go and look forward to a peaceful weekend with just my boys and I.
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I have been thinking about my relationship with alcohol and why it took me so long to realize that it wasn’t something that I was ever going to be able to moderate. My mom, Dad and brother all have the same problem as me. When they start they can’t stop. It was normal to me. It was something that I needed to control better. I thought that feeling was normal. It is interesting when I talk to them now about the fact that I quit drinking. They still don’t see it as a problem for them. I’m glad I finally realized that it was for me 
I hope that my realization helps my kids skip that journey down the path of alcoholism.
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Whether the curse skips the next generation or not, your example of how to get and stay sober, your ability to be present, will have positive impacts that you nor I can imagine.
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When I joined this forum in August I was 8 months sober and I wasn’t sure what I would find. My life felt so hopeless and I was starting to wonder if I should just go back to drinking. I knew that wasn’t what I really wanted but I didn’t know what to do. I’m so glad I came here and kept coming here. I am so grateful for @SassyRocks for making me feel so welcome in the beginning and making it easy to keep coming back. Thank you all! Looking forward to a sober 2026! @JazzyS @Puzzled @Dazercat @SinceIAwoke @Mno @erntedank @erntedank @TrustyBird @Cjp @Salty
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Heck yeah. It has been a pleasure getting to know you. Why would we go backwards when we could keep stepping soberly into the future. Let’s take another year together. Happy 2026!
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Thanks for the shout out. I’m so glad you’re here. It’s a magical sober place for us all 
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I am so glad you stuck around!! 
And thank you for the shout out, it warms my heart. 
We are all so lucky to have found this sober forum and made it into the supportive community it is. We are stronger together. 
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Much love to you. Appreciate the shout out! Great work on your sobriety 
. So very grateful that you are here with us 
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I lead a meeting at work this morning. There wasn’t a link to the meeting in the invite so it started with me in a panic and felt like it kept spiraling. The meeting fulfilled it’s purpose and I am going to move on with some lessons but I needed to get it out somewhere so that I can stop beating myself up about it.
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Super relatable. Sometimes the only thing that can stop my rumination is telling someone else. I’m glad you told us.
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It’s interesting how you come to the conclusion that when there is a fucking missing link that it’s your fault.
Well, my brain makes these relations all day long. But it is easier to see when others jump to these strange conclusions. 
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