# Family health problem, they are on my resentment list

**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/family-health-problem-they-are-on-my-resentment-list/211366
**Category:** Advice & Questions
**Created:** [November 2, 2026, 8:29am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/family-health-problem-they-are-on-my-resentment-list/211366 "2026-11-02T08:29:32Z")
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### Author: ![mccarthym8725](https://talkingsober.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/m/c57346/32.png) [@mccarthym8725](https://talkingsober.com/u/mccarthym8725)
#### Post date: [November 2, 2026, 8:29am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/family-health-problem-they-are-on-my-resentment-list/211366/1 "2026-11-02T08:29:33Z")

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Good morning everyone, I just need some advice. I was informed last night that my mother (70+yrs) has afib. She told me that the doctor said she had heart failure, they operated, everything seems to be okay from what she told me over the phone. I haven’t spoken to her since I earned my sobriety a little over 3 years ago. With her health the way it is, and she doesn’t have family in the state she lives in. I plan to visit her soon to see how her mental health is, but I am thinking in the next coming months that I am going to pick up and move there. I know I need to visit just to see how things would be, but this has been heavy on my heart all night. Yes, I am capable of packing up everything and going. Life has been growing and improving a lot recently. I’m just being selfish in thinking that I would be giving up what I worked for to get where I am now, but I also no I am healthier now to be able to handle her BPD episodes and heal from the past. Any advice, or related stories would be great. Thanks in advance.