Hello guys 
Im going to my uncles funeral tomorrow 
. Since i used alcohol to not feel sadness and to escape from unpleasent situation im fearing a relapse tomorrow 
. Im not sure what i try to say with this new topic or what i expect- guess i just want to share my fear with someone.
Love Daniella
Don’t think about tomorrow focus on today. Just for today stay sober. One day at a time. Ten minutes at a time if you have to. We are here for you. Much love.
Let go and let god, hand it over to your higher power. You will feel better after going through this sober. Get to an AA meeting if you can or NA, share, work the steps and keep coming back
Your fear makes sense to me. We are more vulnerable to caving when experiencing strong emotions. So instead of just worrying, let’s add a plan to get through it. What things can you do to help you cope through the sadness since you won’t be numbing it? Also, what can you do to limit your exposure to alcohol or chances to get it? Try to imagine what getting through this sober will look like.
I see others have suggested meetings. That’s a great idea.
Thx for replaying. I dont have aa or na near me, so its unfortunately not a possiblity for me . But yes i guess i buy myself some time to think over what to do or say - when already thinking about it now. Im actually not worried while being at the funeral or the afterwards. Its more when i come home and im alone.
So sorry to hear about your uncle. Glad you’re reaching out. My dad died unexpectedly two months ago, and it was so tempting to drink after the funeral. Just remember, our sadness will still be there AFTER we drink, and if you’re anything like me, (and many of us) the day after will bring more sadness plus regret, guilt, anxiety etc. I found it helpful reaching out to my sober friends on here. I thought about not reaching out, because I knew they’d talk me out of it. But I did reach out. They literally saved me. We are here for you. Honour your uncle by being the best version of you that you can be. The sober you. Hugs my friend 
Maybe i could ask my brother after the funeral to go back to his place- good idea - thanks
Sorry to hear about your loss 
and yes i do feel it all 100 times worse the day after i will get on here if to tempted:heart:
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and together with the others give me alot of support and good ideas - i really appreciate it !
It’s a part of life. Feel for you. The number one rule of recovery is not to pick up. Pick up the phone instead. Join aa. Get a sponsor. Will using really make the situation better?
Hang in there, just for today, make it till midnight and repeat. Much love and condolences
Thanks alot !! and no it definately would not help on the situation😪
Is your brother a drinker?
No not an addict he only drinks at partys 5 or 6 times a year
If you wanted, you could start an AA meeting yourself. It only takes two for a meeting.
Yes thats true😂
Then his house is probably a safe place for you. Sorry for your loss((
Thanks alot and yes it would be a good place to be afterwards 
And if you haven’t checked, google find a aa meeting online near you and just have a look because they show up everywhere all around the world. Much love!
I know all the emotions you will be feeling are raw and real,but let them come over you acknowledge them sit with them alcohol free then release them .xxalk the best for tomorrow, remember your allowed to feel sad .
Thx alot dear i will keep that in mind❤