im so frustrated right now. Im so angry that I have to do EVERYTHING MYSELF! I DONT HAVE HELP. im expected to do everyones chores take care of everyone n who takes care of me? i want to drink so bad right now. i dont know how to handle this. 
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Have a green tea and drinking seems a good idea now but itās the worse
The devil is a liar
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You take care of you. One day at a time.
Screw the chores if theyāre triggering you.
Learn to love the sound of your footsteps as you walk away from something that doesnāt serve you.
When you are calmā¦use your words. ā¦not your lips to drink, but to gather your rational thoughts. Sober.
Trust me. I have 2 kids and a husbandā¦a full time job and I live with chronic pain. I sometimes want to punch something in the face. Iām human. The bottle doesnāt help. It just silences you.
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Meditate and find a way to calm your mind. Take a deep breath and if you believe in a higher being try to ask for some guidance and clarity.
Donāt drink, it never solves anything only makes you numb to your problems and less able to deal with them.
We are all responsible for our own happiness no one else. You are enough and you are a beautiful human being. Sometimes things are tough but just take a little break and keep going. Whatever you do dont drink and you have succeeding in becoming a better person for yourself and your family.
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You will quickly realize that the longer your are sober the easier it will be to handle things without this sense overwhelming doom. Plus, try be conscious of what alcohol will actually do if you drink it. Itās a temporary āfixā, which isnāt a fix at all your are just numbing a problem for a few hours until your fall asleep, and I donāt think a hangover tomorrow will ease that agitation. Before you could drink when you were upset so now your body doesnāt have a way to deal with those feelings sober. Yet, but part of the process is learning HOW without turning to alcohol. Take this opportunity to grow as a person and not crumble
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I feel the same way as you SO often. Breathe. See if you can look past this minute. You CAN.
What they do doesnāt matter.
What YOU do does 
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Hang in there! It helps when I eat a meal or sweets. That full feeling makes me not want to drink.
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@Selenadv @SoberSteph @ablane890 @Oliverjava @Leigh @pamelabrooke @Elisabeth thanks guys i broke down and started crying. i was so frustrated n i so wanted to drink even now butā¦ i didnt 
i cant believe i didnt. it left me feeling like i ran 20 miles so tired deflated and depressed but at the same time happy. i feel so drained rn i dont know why. one day down. good night guys thank you.
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yes!! That makes me smile. And helps me to get thru another niteā¦the whole point of all of <<>>
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What always drives me is I always think how will I feel the next day - usually the urge only last a few moments - just keep busy and read lots!
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Some lovely words guys. I feel so lucky to have stumbled upon this group. Well done Igotthis! I am feeling super flat and grumpy too. But I am trying to focus on the success of the hours ticking by. You got this!
AWESOME! Take pride in every success and use that for strength next time. It seems so difficult to resist sometimes but in the end you made it and now you know that when those feeling come up it may be tough but you can prevail. You have the choice and you are ultimately in control. Good job girl!
Also I like what @Leigh said. Alot of times the best way to overcome our pain and frustrations is to buckle up and face the storm of our emotions and feel them fully. No numbing allowed. Only then will you eventually come out on the other side. If you run away it will chase you and be waiting for you until you face it and allow all those emotions to come out. Facing them and fully experiencing them makes us grow and become stronger.
Most people suppress alot of stuff and carry that around and let it out in short bursts like a balloon getting to full of air. Take time out of your day to go over your previous day or week and rexognize the negative feelings inside you you have against anyone whether it be from something small or big and find a way to forgive them. Say it outloud. I forgive you for blank and please forgive me for whatever. Doing this simple exercise everyday will make you have the peace and calm mind of a Buddhist monk. 
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@Igotthis88
YAAAS girl!
Life sucks sometimesā¦but you were happy despite the exhausting battle you fought like a tiger.
Being open and honest helps us tooā¦believe meā¦we fight this too. Every day matters and you rose above all odds and resisted the only thing you knew to reach for.
In the quiet of your darkest night, alone, you did this. Youāve just shone through the cracks of your broken human self. This will make you strong.
Hellā¦I cried reading your victory!
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@pamelabrooke @rabbit @wakfers @ablane890 @SoberSteph yes i did it!! im still in awe of it. usually i just say fuck it! n run to Albertsonās to get my 2 bottles of 40 oz of freedom. even though i had 2 panic attacks fighting the urge i still didnt. sighā¦Im not going to lie to you guys thoughā¦I think of wanting to give in every second. when the night comes n the sun goes down thats the worse for me. that for me means time to drink until i pass out. now i just sit here losing my shit everynight until i take my sleeping pills cuz i cant sleep with out alcohol im so use to being shitfaced to ko.
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Wow, youāre amazing igotthis88, it obviously was rather a strong craving but instead of racing to the shop, you came on here to let off some steam. Hope I can be as strong as you when everything gets on top of me
@PeppermintTea thanks!! this group helps glad i found it. its so hard but im a leo n im tired of being controlled by a substance 
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So true, Iām a stubborn Taurus so Iāll be damned if alcohol is going be beat me!
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@PeppermintTea hahaha same feeling here its like i dont let people control me how the hell do i let this thing take over 
Another success under your belt! I walked past the bottleshop TWICE last night and watched hubby drink a whole bottle of wine. One word GRUMPY!! 
but I slept really well for the first time in forever, didnāt wake up hating myself and sense a touch of clear thought arriving.
Keep at it gang! ļø
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@Igotthis88 , one thing that also helps me is try getting into a good series, thatās a real time killer for me and stops me from thinking of boozing.
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