Today marks one whole week in recovery … woohoo!!! Been clean and it feels great!! This morning at breakfast I showed my husband my sober day count on my phone and he congratulated me. I then needed to hear more positive things from him; I asked him if he’s noticed any positive changes in me. He said yes, that mostly on the weekend mornings I’m usually hung over and I wake up grouchy and it takes me forever to get out of the house; that just this alone would ruin his weekends … not really what I was looking for. I then asked him to give me something else something to keep me going. He then replied that he has been able to quit longer than a week, so I should be able to as well. I felt like crying in the middle of the restaurant… when the hell as my quiting drinking been all about him!!! FYI, he’s still drinking when I have quit. He said that he switched to vodka so I wouldn’t smell it on his breath and then I would want one. Am I being over dramatic by feeling that I’m not getting the support I crave from him? If I mention it to him this is what he’ll say … I’m being over dramatic and then I would want to say “fuck it, I’m drinking”! Help … 
You are expecting too much from him as he clearly had go own drinking problem. Don’t look to him for support right now. He wont give you the answers you need to hear because he doesnt sound like he acceptsor understand addiction. look to a good friend that you know will understand or AA and some chirches bag a group called celebrate recovery. Don’t set yourself up so you can use him as an excuse to drink. This is all about you. You feeling better and you accomplishing your goals! You can do it!
*has his own drinking
@Cece You are so right I can’t use his not understanding and his non believe in me as an excuse to have a drink, or two or three. I have to believe in my own self … I hope he wakes up with the worse hangover ever tomorrow morning … 
@Shiraicar i used to do that when I was dating the wrong people. Usually addicts that only saw my wrongs.today I am 8 wks sober. I am learning to make new habits. I find that it’s in those habitual times when I would drink i am struggling more but press through it. We got this! So glad I found this app just yesterday to be connected to people who understand and right when I need the support.
@Cece oh congrats on your 8 wks!!! That is awesome!! New habits and reinventing ourselves will keep us going. I bought a 1000 piece puzzle the other day and I signed up to learn how to knit this coming week just to keep my mind busy. We got this!!! 
️
@Oliverjava You are so correct. I’ve been so disappointed in myself (and others) when all I really want is a hug (and someone who I love) and to hear, I’m so proud of you. But instead I’m trying to be strong in my own way. He asked me why I have an attitude, I told him that I don’t have an attitude and I’m sorry he sees it as such. I’m just trying to be busy and I chose not to be in the same room as he is while he’s throwing them back and I hope he respects that. He said he did; now to see if he chooses me or the drink …