# Feeling like a failure

**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589
**Category:** Relapses
**Created:** [April 25, 2017, 1:19pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589 "2017-04-25T13:19:40Z")
**Posts on this page:** 6
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### Author: ![Mgoff103](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/mgoff103/32/20936_2.png) [@Mgoff103](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mgoff103)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2017, 1:19pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589/1 "2017-04-25T13:19:40Z")

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After 29 days sober, which is my longest stretch, I relapsed. That was almost a month ago and since then its been a mix of days drinking, with some nights getting annihilating drunk. I reset my clock and am back at square one today. Wish me luck!

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### Author: ![Shattered\_dreams](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/shattered_dreams/32/6138_2.png) [@Shattered\_dreams](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shattered_dreams)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2017, 1:31pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589/3 "2017-04-25T13:31:11Z")

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Good luck my friend! Relapses really do happen, I want go as far to say it’s expected, however it’s kind of part of “oh crap” I need to do something different. That small skirmish was lost, but not the war!

Stay focused, and if you do relapse don’t shame yourself and go right back to I don’t drink. Those 29 days could had been alcohol fuelled but they weren’t, that’s progress and shows you can do it!

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### Author: ![Maiolino](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/maiolino/32/13411_2.png) [@Maiolino](https://talkingsober.com/u/Maiolino)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2017, 1:35pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589/4 "2017-04-25T13:35:00Z")

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I wish you all the luck!  
You got this! Everyone can end up with a bad relapse. Just look past it and struggle on.

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### Author: ![Maiolino](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/maiolino/32/13411_2.png) [@Maiolino](https://talkingsober.com/u/Maiolino)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2017, 1:40pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589/5 "2017-04-25T13:40:32Z")

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I myself have a crisis and fighting the urge.  
Just stay strong and take it in you own pace.  
This place is helping me a bunch, so talk to people in here.

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### Author: ![Sam-thebeachguy](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/sam-thebeachguy/32/8376_2.png) [@Sam-thebeachguy](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sam-thebeachguy)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2017, 1:49pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589/6 "2017-04-25T13:49:45Z")

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Welcome back!  
Its amazing that you came back.  
Stay strong we are all in this together!

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### Author: ![JohnSee](https://talkingsober.com/user_avatar/talkingsober.com/johnsee/32/4658_2.png) [@JohnSee](https://talkingsober.com/u/JohnSee)
#### Post date: [April 25, 2017, 4:50pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/feeling-like-a-failure/11589/7 "2017-04-25T16:50:01Z")

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Hi @Mgoff103.

I see a number of people out here today struggling with slip/relapse. I would recommend spending some time studying relapse prevention and how to deal with cravings. Some good resources are in these posts:

([Different Aspects of Recovery - #28 by Melrm](http://talkingsober.com/t/different-aspects-of-recovery/6571/28))

([Different Aspects of Recovery - #36 by Melrm](http://talkingsober.com/t/different-aspects-of-recovery/6571/36))