I’m currently 5 days sober from alcohol. I’ve quit off and on all of 2016 buy I am confident it’s real this time. I think that’s why I’m feeling so alone.
I’m divorced and never have my son on Sundays, always my worst days drinking. If I felt lonely I’d just go watch football at a bar all day and make plenty of ‘friends’ for the day and have a great time. Now I’m truly alone and so sad and depressed it’s physically painful. My real friends all drink heavily and I need to separate myself from that for a while. Getting through today and tomorrow alone are going to be so hard.
How do you cope when you don’t have much support from others? I’m glad I found this page as it’s already helped.
Hi.there, don’t feel lonely, this forum is great! I use this one and one called ‘my way out’ there are lots of people in the same boat as you, hang in there, the longer you are sober the easier it gets, I am on my millionth quit but really sticking at it this time and am on day 57
Yes definitely come on here when you feel lonely, we may not have a face or even a real name but we’re all in it together to support each other and it’s great. Lovely to speak to people going through the same thing. Why don’t you start a hobby that you can do each Sunday? Or even spend the time researching things in your local area that you are your son can do when your back together?
Simply expressing yourself via this forum will help tramendously. I recommend replacing bad habits with good ones. Try cooking, reading, meditation, exercise, etc.
You aren’t alone. When you dig further and share more in this community, you’ll see the rewards. I wasn’t planning on abstaining from alcohol but through this community my perspectives changed. Sobriety has made me very happy, I’m learning a lot about myself and my environment, and I’m only one week in.
Create positivity in your outlook and your weaknesses will become strengths. Good luck man!
Great ideas and I already feel much less lonely, thank you. I think joining a gym might be a good idea, I love the outdoors but it’s hard in the winter.
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. There’s not a more lonely feeling than missing your kids
If you are religious maybe try going to a double sermon on Sundays or join a bible study?
Or start a book club that meets Sundays?
Start a card club on Sundays?
Make that your cleaning day?
I hope you can find something that helps you feel better and keeps you occupied! Stay busy, you can do this hugs!
Eucalyptus steam rooms are the best! I think that’s a great Idea to help replace feeling lonely and missing your children with feeling pampered and relaxing
Seriously though, there can be loneliness even in a crowded room. I am learning to like my own company sober. And by building new habits and improving me, I am finding myself much more tolerable.
I hear you. I understand your loneliness. I went through the same feelings when I gave up meth. I also gave up my friends. Many I had known for 20+ years. Theyre all still using. Breaking away is easier when you’re seriously wanting sobriety in your life. Perhaps attending AA and making new friends on the same path may help fill some of your loneliness. Im going to attend NA as soon as they start up this year. Keep up the good work. Take care
I understand the loneliness part. I was in treatment for 3 months then did sober living for a while. Now six months later im back in my hometown of Austin. I cant be around my old friends and my family as loving as they are dont understand the struggle. What has helped me the most is getting involved with the sober community and engaging with others in meetings. It truly made a huge difference for me.
Sorry for what you are going through. I hope posting here helps. I have always disliked Sundays. Not because of my kids. But all the guilt that seemed to be waiting Sunday morning. But! Our grocery stores here don’t sale alcohol on Sundays. So it’s my new grocery store day. I’m not too hungover to go and they can’t legally sale me wine
I think turning it into a grocery, cleaning and gym day is going to help a lot. Thank you to everyone for all the support. I feel like I just made a bunch of new awesome friends. I was so close to going to a bar just a few minutes ago and turned to hear instead. I hope I can provide the same support to others. Thank you thank you thank you
I can totally relate to you. My worst day was when my daughter was at her father’s overnight. I have never stayed sober for that, I couldn’t be alone with my thoughts. I am also on day 5, and have tried many many times over the last year to quit. This is the first time I’ve made it past day 4! I finally decided to start AA this time and that is definitely helping. Don’t be afraid to go to more than one meeting in a day if you feel lonely. And definitely take up a hobby or, like you said, make it a day of things to keep you busy. You can do this and you will be so glad you did when you are able to productively handle those Sundays. You just might come to like the alone time one day
