Can’t stop crying, feel like my marriage is over, am 8 weeks sober today and felt like I was doing so well but my DH is now having a meltdown over my past drinking habits and I don’t know what to do 
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Oh babe. You need support, not reminders. Sometimes I just ‘wait out’ my husbands rubbish. He might be working through something himself…
Stay strong. Imagine his words bouncing off you! 8 weeks is incredible. Focus on your achievement 
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I would like to help, but first I need to know what a DH is…
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It is short for dear hubby 
Thanks, I am proud of myself and so was he but this past week HD has been distant and says he is coming to terms with everything I have put him through (my evenings were spent drinking and then blacking out) he hasn’t shown me any affection over Xmas at all and its been the worst xnaz ever, I just wanted it to be lovely being my first sober one in years
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Haha.
The greatest thing about a meltdown is that they end. Often times they’re created from the individual not being able to internalize a certain emotion.
Learn from this friction. Create a goal for you as a couple to strive for. And remember, COMMUNICATE!
This is just a moment, a test, a guiding conflict. Defeat it with intelligence and determination!
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Seriously?! Does he feel offended and uncomfortable by your sobriety and the changes that have taken place within you? Sounds like he’s dealing with his own issues and it doesn’t have anything to do with you. Don’t let his insecurities take away from your success. Give him wide birth and continue to do what you need to do to keep taking care of yourself.
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I have retreated to our bedroom as I couldn’t stop crying, he hasn’t come to see me so I’m guessing I will be seeing the new year in on my own! He asked me yesterday to give him some space and not pressure him with questions so that’s what I’m doing, I am finding support here and at my as meetings
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AA meetings that should say!
Great idea. It’s already almost 2017 there…its only 1:14 pm here…got some time on my hands haha.
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Haha same. Dh? What? Lol
Being sober is hard enough, but then add relationship issues…makes it even more difficult. Hang in there and give him space if that’s what he needs.
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Congratulation on 8 weeks sober that is awesome stay strong, remind yourself you doing this for yourself. Stay Proud @Jasmine69 . You are doing well .
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So now he is punishing me by going to bed 20 minutes before midnight probably pay back for the years I have been drunk and asleep by then but even so VERY childish!!
Oh @Jasmine69. This too shall pass ️ I’ll bring in the New Year with you! (From the beach in Australia). HUGS x
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So just jump up and down on the bed when the clock strikes 12…make light of the situation, life’s too short for these miniscule problems!
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You might have to do a countdown for me😘
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Perhaps … i dont know . My opinion is : try not to focus on what he says or do… instead of you should focus on act differently in a positive way. Ok he does this and that… well Pardon so what… try think defferently. I can not say what u shall do i try to put myself in the situasion. Talk to him …
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He came down to wish me happy new year maybe we will be ok! Thanks for your help tonight everyone x
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Happy NEW Year!!! 
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