Feeling so upset tonight

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My counselor said healing from past mistakes is like a boil. We can cover it up and put salve on it to stop the pain temporarily. Or we can Lance it to let out the poison and let it heal completely. Coming to terms with the last is just that, lancing the boil. I am still coming to terms with my last drunken mistake that ruined my life, and that was 5 months ago. Almost 3 months sober now, and only I sobriety can i deal with it fully. It still hurts, but it is better now. Sounds like the same thing, dealing with past pain, but this will finally let it heal. Keep going

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See ? He does like what you are doing. I truly belive that :slight_smile: fingers crossed for you guys :smile:

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Awww! Congratulations to you! He is handling things a bit immaturely but he is a manā€¦lol. joke. He needs to be proud of you and grateful for your progress. Support and love is key. Happy New year and God bless you

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Thank you that is good advice, I hope you sort things out and have a great new year

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Thank you happy new year to you too x

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Happy sober New Year @Jasmine69.

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Thanks! And to you too x

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Thereā€™s alanon for partners maybe if he went to a meeting only a suggestion my ex had enough of me and through me out we got divorced d after 15 years but today Iā€™m married again 22 years meet Sheila when I was 8 years sober never been happier you have a great new year

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Youā€™ve had 8 weeks sober and that is amazing. Heā€™s probably been holding in all his emotions for so long heā€™s just exploded on you. It just sucks because it isnā€™t really logical to do it now when you are in a better place.

It sounds to me like your DH needs therapy or meetings. I hope he does that.

Hugs. You have support here!! :sparkling_heart:

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marriage issues and drinking are often closely related. in my case I stopped drinking and did not tell my wife, still got told I was drunk and thinking destroyed by alcohol on regular basis. After a week she noticed I had stopped then it was waiting for me to fail.
Marriages can be very trying but I am almost 3 months dry and cannot believe it is possible

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Iā€™m sorry to hear this I was clean for three weeks and thought everything was going good then out of the blue my fiancĆ© says we need to separate and that put me back over the edge. My point of telling you my story is no matter what donā€™t give :point_up_2:. He may be dealing with some of his own issueā€™s keep fighting and keep your head :point_up_2:.

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