I’m having a day where I’m feeling incredibly sorry for myself. I quit alcohol as a way to get myself healthy yet here I am in physical pain unable to take advantage of this body that I want to make healthier. I don’t WANT to have a drink, I just don’t know what else to do that would make me feel better. I honestly don’t know what to do with myself other than drink.
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Hi @VSue. I feel for you. It’s not easy. But there are two options. One is drink and reset and wake up feeling frustrated that you’re back to square one. The other is do anything but drink. Remember as a young child you didn’t need it? Stay strong. You know the answer
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Dear sue,
Have patience with yourself! Everything that you are feeling is ok to feel! We have all been there… sad for no reason, anxious, then happy, then sad again… it’s an emotional roller coaster. I’m sorry you’re having an off day. I can promise you that it will get better. Just be patient with yourself and kind. This journey is hard, but we are all here for you with love and support. Don’t be hard on yourself 
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I promise not to drink, I have no desire to go down that path again…I just wish I had other outlets. I am trying to read more but I think I have ADHD too so I get bored pretty quick when reading (either ADHD or mild dyslexia). I tried adult colouring books but the little patterns are sooo complicated I get frustrated and give up. I like to cook. Maybe I’ll just cook more.
You can find other outlets… it took me a while to find something to do. It took me a while to find out what sober me liked. Cooking is a great outlet! Even though it’s a scary time right now… it was for me when I didn’t know what to do with myself… it’ll get better and fun just be patient with yourself and also be kind
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Hi Sue, it is extremely hard and one of my many reasons to stop drinking was to help get healthy again. Yes at first you don’t feel like doing anything and there are days I have intense headaches however from just not drinking I have lost weight (I haven’t been exercising alot due to the headaches). It’ll take you awhile to find your groove and things you love to do but have every faith you can do it. If you love cooking maybe you can be a little more creative like finding out how to make cheese or try to make pasta from scratch. Hope this helps and best of luck to you 
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I feel the same but I am already planning to cook in the weekend for my wife who is pregnant… I want to keep myself occupied and stay sober.
I got sort of a high from cycling an hour to music.
Tonight, after a week and feeling great is when I want to drink my sour spouse away. He’s being very distant. Maybe he always kept me at arms length and I just drank him away. I hate that I’m such a kind, free spirit and he seems to know how to push my buttons. I’ll cycle.
He brings out the worst in me. I let him.
I probably could cycle. My bad back (due to week abdominals) is making even walking hurt but cycling might be okay. Today I am trying swimming.
I’m sorry about husband. Mi e is trying to get back in but I’m not ready yet. I hold a lot of resentment towards him. It is part of why I let my drinking get so out of hand. I think I was getting revenge on him. Or just hiding from him. I’m not sure. I just know that I’m not ready for happy wedded bliss yet.
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Hi @VSue. You may wish to try parkrun. It’s free at 9am all over UK. You have basically 400 people who run or walk. Some walk it but that’s fine. Mo farah even did it. Great goal to have and not too bad on muscles if walk it